Anonymous wrote:Op here. My kids still have some birthday gifts and Christmas gifts unopened lying around from prior year(s) and a few hundreds of amazon/store/restaurant giftcards (gifts) that they never want to use. I have donated some of them. Relatives love to give them gifts all the time. They are not materialistic kid, and they have more than enough toys and money than they need. I do not see the reason why they would need to take a few hundreds of cash from grandparents. I and DH do not think they lie. My home never lost any cash or giftcards. I do not know what happens here, frankly speaking.

I don't want to derail this, and apologies up front, but OP, it reads as if English is not your native language. Correct grammar would be DH and I do not think... Not I and DH.

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Anonymous wrote:If kids stole it, surely it would be in your house somewhere.

She said the kids have thousands in their rooms. In ES! Op has no clue what her kids are doing!

Got it. I assumed a parent would know how much a kid has in their room, especially if it's 1000s. The whole thing is weird. Where did the kids get 1000s of dollars? That could be telling.

Exactly. Klepto.

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Anonymous wrote:If kids stole it, surely it would be in your house somewhere.

She said the kids have thousands in their rooms. In ES! Op has no clue what her kids are doing!

Got it. I assumed a parent would know how much a kid has in their room, especially if it's 1000s. The whole thing is weird. Where did the kids get 1000s of dollars? That could be telling.

Op here. My kids still have some birthday gifts and Christmas gifts unopened lying around from prior year(s) and a few hundreds of amazon/store/restaurant giftcards (gifts) that they never want to use. I have donated some of them. Relatives love to give them gifts all the time. They are not materialistic kid, and they have more than enough toys and money than they need. I do not see the reason why they would need to take a few hundreds of cash from grandparents. I and DH do not think they lie. My home never lost any cash or giftcards. I do not know what happens here, frankly speaking.

Anonymous wrote:Your kid opened drawers in their grandparents house?

Why????

Something doesn't make sense here.

+1

Really weird the kid admitted to opening drawers but nothing else. He’s probably the thief.

And your kids might be financially rich but they are not morally rich.

Anonymous wrote:If kids stole it, surely it would be in your house somewhere.

She said the kids have thousands in their rooms. In ES! Op has no clue what her kids are doing!

Anonymous wrote:Your kid opened drawers in their grandparents house?

Why????

Something doesn't make sense here.

He obviously did it. Op should have told the kids there was a camera and see how they reacted.

If kids stole it, surely it would be in your house somewhere.

I would have them write a note either together or separately. Older not can apologize for looking in their drawers and explain he did not see any money. Younger can also assure them he did not take money. If one of them is lying they will be taught a lesson even if not directly punished. If not they will be reassured that you believe them.

There is no way to know. Either one or both of your kids are lying, or Grandpa spent the money and doesn't want to fess up.

Is Grandpa beta to his wife?

Your kid opened drawers in their grandparents house?

Why????

Something doesn't make sense here.

You have lying kids.

If the grandparents want to drop it, then drop it. But I think you are all foolish for having so much cash around.

Op here. Dh had questioned to me if they may have forgotton that they spent the money or misplaced the money by any chance. We would never find out because grandma said grandpa did not even want me to find out about these and want to drop the matter. I am sure the bitterness and trust issue are still there.

Our 2 ES kids did a sleepover one night a few weeks ago at grandparent house during winter break. Grandma whispered to me that they realized that their bedroom drawers were opened and a few hundred cash was missing. They found out right after I picked up my kids that weekend. Grandma did not want to tell me more specific details, and they were more upset that my 2 kids burned their trust rather than losing that a few hundreds. They would be more than happy to give them money if they ever ask. I was shocked because my kids are rich and they have a few thousands cash in their bedroom, and I & DH never lost any cash at home. They never ask me to buy them anything. One kid just loves youtube and the other kid just loves to play dollhouse.

I and DH have asked my kids individually and they deny that they ever saw any cash or took the cash. The older boy did admitted that he opened some drawers out of curiosity at grandparent bedroom but he did not see any cash. Well, grandparents do not want to talk about it further or confront grandkids and they just are disappointed and want me to tell them that it is not right and it is a stealing. They think it is one of our child did that and they want to drop the matter. Dh and I do not think our 2 kids lie after us investigating and questioning them in different ways. We also do not think grandparents make these up. It is just awkward now, what to do next step? I have yelled one kid that he should have never opened any drawers in someone's bedroom (where they did sleepover at their giant bedroom). What to do next?