Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 16:55     Subject: “Too Invested”
Anonymous wrote:The manager is annoyed about being pestered with your questions. Even if you don't think you're pestering, that's how it feels to the manager. Stay in your lane until you have a better sense of the company and the personalities.

It does seem like an odd choice words, but they were probably looking for a nice way to say "leave me alone".


This. It's clearly manager-speak for "back off". Pay attention to it.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 16:48     Subject: “Too Invested”
The manager is annoyed about being pestered with your questions. Even if you don't think you're pestering, that's how it feels to the manager. Stay in your lane until you have a better sense of the company and the personalities.

It does seem like an odd choice words, but they were probably looking for a nice way to say "leave me alone".
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 16:44     Subject: “Too Invested”
Anonymous wrote:I'd just dial back the energy. People can come on too strong, too pushy. Find the culture flow. Become "too invested" in your own lane.



This. You’ve been there two months. Focus on getting up to speed on your job.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 16:38     Subject: “Too Invested”
Agreed. OP, "yet" in your op is confusing. Are you trying to get those responsibilities, or are you already designated to be taking them on soon?
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2026 16:32     Subject: “Too Invested”
that could be seen as trying expand your responsibilities and take things from others. Focus on being invested in what is in your job description and doing that really well.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2026 09:22     Subject: “Too Invested”
Weird choice of words from the manager. As PPs have said, carry on but find a sweet spot where you dial back the perceived energy. Don’t dial back your actions but see if you can reframe.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 18:22     Subject: “Too Invested”
Anonymous wrote:I have been at my current role for 2 months now.

I was asking about some items for my group-not my responsibility yet but trying to get up to speed.

The manager of that department said I was “too invested”.

WHAT?


What does the “yet” mean in this sentence?
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 18:17     Subject: “Too Invested”
I'd just dial back the energy. People can come on too strong, too pushy. Find the culture flow. Become "too invested" in your own lane.

Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 12:11     Subject: “Too Invested”
Anonymous wrote:I take it you don't report to this manager? The manager might feel threatened that you are trying to do things differently, or do more than they are doing.

NP, but this is the vibe I’m picking up, too. This person feels threatened. I had a colleague like this, too, and I found the best course of action was to carry on despite him. He was testing me to see if he could intimidate me. He quickly learned he couldn’t and has backed down, at least to my face.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 11:53     Subject: “Too Invested”
I take it you don't report to this manager? The manager might feel threatened that you are trying to do things differently, or do more than they are doing.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2026 11:50     Subject: “Too Invested”
I have been at my current role for 2 months now.

I was asking about some items for my group-not my responsibility yet but trying to get up to speed.

The manager of that department said I was “too invested”.

WHAT?