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Anonymous wrote:Usually fat

IME they are mostly really in shape and together women with grad school degrees. They have the time and money to take care of themselves. No man met their high standards.

That or they have unrealistic standards and such men didn't want them so they didn't settle.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually fat

IME they are mostly really in shape and together women with grad school degrees. They have the time and money to take care of themselves. No man met their high standards.

Not those that I know. The ones I know are obese, unattractive and do not take care of themselves. They make little money. And would probably take just about any partner who came along.

Seriously not trying to be mean or stir things up here. But the women I know who are late 30s on and single are not that way because they want to be.

I really wanted to get married and have kids, I have memories as young as 8/9 really daydreaming about that. So I just assume some women also have similar tendencies and desire to be single. I don't think its a failure just like I dont think marriage is an accomplishment. Same with kids. Its all neutral on the "goodness" scale and just what you want. I do feel sorry for the women who are forced to choose marriage and kids and worry we as a society are going back to less choices which worries me for my own daughters.

Mentally ill

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually fat

IME they are mostly really in shape and together women with grad school degrees. They have the time and money to take care of themselves. No man met their high standards.

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Anonymous wrote:Usually fat

IME they are mostly really in shape and together women with grad school degrees. They have the time and money to take care of themselves. No man met their high standards.

I guess its okay until you hit retirement age where companionship is needed and most friends and family are busy with their own life, health etc.

Usually fat

Something something about cats being better than men.

On average, I find them more interesting but less empathetic and more selfish than their divorced counterparts. Sometimes they aren't even interesting. Sometimes they are very empathetic but unlucky in love.

I'm one of them, and have a number of friends who are. It wasnt the plan, and it's not ideal, but it's better to be single than unhappily partnered. I do know happy couples but I also know so many unhappy ones.

I have a child, a decent job, hobbies, a home and many friends. I date when someone comes along, but I'm otherwise busy with my commitments.

They're smart and I envy them. Getting married and having kids was a huge mistake for me.

I am one, and I know a half dozen other women who are/were.

The ones I know and myself included were highly educated self supporting and didn’t have the patience to tolerate the kinds of behaviors that fill hundreds of threads on this board.

A few of them did single parent by choice and did very well parenting without the added strain of parenting an adult as well. Some of us eschewed parenting as well as marriage.

None of us is any substantial degree more or less happy than the average middle aged person - but some of us have a lot less stress.

I used to spend a fair bit of time wondering what if, but now that I’m in my mid 50s and I see the state of most of the middle aged marriages around me, I’m very much at peace with being the spinster auntie of my family. VERY MUCH.

Who cares? If someone wants to remain single or childless or get married and have kids what affect does that have on me?

Other side of the thread about forever bachelors.