Anonymous
Post 01/13/2026 13:42     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
You can do fitted tees, blazers, wide leg pants. I am also a fan of cardigan over long skirt or dress with boots. Easy to find nice secondhand blazers and sweaters to pair with other cheaper items. I mix a lot of thrifted Vince and Theory with Uniqlo.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 19:27     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Anonymous wrote:Lots of places, but you are going to spend some money. I wear a lot of Scanlon Theodore.


This gives off power woman on boards in her 60s vibes - don’t hate it but anyone under 50 can’t pull this style off without looking like a Barbara Corcoran impersonator
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 18:19     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Anonymous wrote:Many of us are off the standard size chart in one way or another.

When you figure out how you are, you have to either buy for your largest measurement and tailor, or figure out the shapes that work for you and stick to them.

I’m like the opposite of your shape, and I know what works for me is tunic and shift dresses, and pants with jackets or cardigans to the hip. So I just do that. Idk what it is for you but maybe aline dresses or all your pants need the waist taken in, or whatever. But you have to figure out what it is and just stick to that.



Op just as an example, you didn’t give a bust measurement but belted shirt dresses that flare to the knee look like crap on me. I’m apple shaped with a large bust. But a short dress that skims the waist is great for me. So maybe try belted shirt dresses since you want to look more feminine and have a small waist? Maybe you’re a 50’s girlie, silhouette wise.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 18:12     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Many of us are off the standard size chart in one way or another.

When you figure out how you are, you have to either buy for your largest measurement and tailor, or figure out the shapes that work for you and stick to them.

I’m like the opposite of your shape, and I know what works for me is tunic and shift dresses, and pants with jackets or cardigans to the hip. So I just do that. Idk what it is for you but maybe aline dresses or all your pants need the waist taken in, or whatever. But you have to figure out what it is and just stick to that.

Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 18:07     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Lots of places, but you are going to spend some money. I wear a lot of Scanlon Theodore.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:52     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:44 inches? Even among female CrossFit athletes who are competing, 23 inches is on the higher side. And they're juicing.


I think they might total - so their hips are 44 and for them that’s the widest at their thighs (sounds like saddle bags which I am also cursed with) - at least that’s how I read it.


This is what I interpreted it to mean. Either way OP is obviously strong and curvy. There is no way around it - you need to tailor your clothes. I got tired of spending so much at the tailor that I learned to tailor my own clothes. My mom sews as a hobby so I had a foundation on which to build. Now I buy clothes to fit my largest body part and tailor the rest. It’s pretty quick and easy for me to do now with several years of practice.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:46     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Anonymous wrote:44 inches? Even among female CrossFit athletes who are competing, 23 inches is on the higher side. And they're juicing.


I think they might total - so their hips are 44 and for them that’s the widest at their thighs (sounds like saddle bags which I am also cursed with) - at least that’s how I read it.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:45     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Anonymous wrote:I work in a business casual office and I’m 30 years old - and have an athletic build (5’11, 170 lbs). My thighs are rock solid and almost 44 in and I have a 30 in waist. My sense of style is naturally pretty feminine but I feel like a lot of women’s styles look so masculine and oversized for taller women, and I already feel frustrated that the more I workout the less feminine I look.

Any tips on where to shop? I have a decent budget


Similar hip to waist ratio and chubbier and shorter - recently I’ve been getting a lot of work clothes from Target since everything else has gotten so cheap and I’m not willing to spend $500 on pants which is where I’ve found the quality is actually better.

Their wide leg work pants are great and don’t wrinkle and I pair them with a micro rib tee and nice cardigan or collarless blazer jacket thing and a nice belt.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:41     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
44 inches? Even among female CrossFit athletes who are competing, 23 inches is on the higher side. And they're juicing.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 16:22     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
You['re lucky that you have the figure for the current wide leg trend though.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 15:47     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
So many of the 20s - early 30s women I work with struggle to dress professionally , even the ones who are conventionally pretty and stylish. And most of that boils down to clothes looking plastic and lack of tailoring
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 13:58     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
Anonymous wrote:This whole oversized blazer trend and boxy shirt trend is terrible.


Plus dolman sleeves and raglan sleeves that add to the boxiness.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 13:48     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
This whole oversized blazer trend and boxy shirt trend is terrible.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 13:32     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
You need to get them tailored.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2026 12:31     Subject: Why is it so hard to find flattering professional clothes
I work in a business casual office and I’m 30 years old - and have an athletic build (5’11, 170 lbs). My thighs are rock solid and almost 44 in and I have a 30 in waist. My sense of style is naturally pretty feminine but I feel like a lot of women’s styles look so masculine and oversized for taller women, and I already feel frustrated that the more I workout the less feminine I look.

Any tips on where to shop? I have a decent budget