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Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and very overweight for my height. Getting likes or clicks from men on my profile is easy but maybe less than 10% of them would carry a consistent conversation and less than 2% of them would be willing to meet on a date. Again, finding sex is easy but not very meaningful for me so dating has to lead somewhere and I just don't date because of sex. I am having very very hard time in finding someone who would be interested in LTR. My last relationship was 3+ years ago and now I see that to be much better than what I am getting out there now. Maybe I would have tried harder in my previous relationship but who knew. anyway, finding any way of LTR is extremely difficult at my age though not impossible.

Why is it more difficult now for you than a few years ago?

Not sure but maybe it has to do with how I look. Gained some weight and that’s what makes it challenging I think. I am more than 185+ lbs at 5’3”

Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

100% this! Perimenopause will come for you. Enjoy it now.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not on apps. I have a network of friends who invite me to parties, where men gather. They all know I'm into meeting people and think of me the minute someone else is looking.
I'm 48 and got a call from a 30-year old the other day. I'll try to find time to meet him.
I'm my type's type, which helps a lot.

Why would you want to date a 30 year old at 48 (if you want more than a hookup)?

Anonymous wrote:I am 43F and very overweight for my height. Getting likes or clicks from men on my profile is easy but maybe less than 10% of them would carry a consistent conversation and less than 2% of them would be willing to meet on a date. Again, finding sex is easy but not very meaningful for me so dating has to lead somewhere and I just don't date because of sex. I am having very very hard time in finding someone who would be interested in LTR. My last relationship was 3+ years ago and now I see that to be much better than what I am getting out there now. Maybe I would have tried harder in my previous relationship but who knew. anyway, finding any way of LTR is extremely difficult at my age though not impossible.

Why is it more difficult now for you than a few years ago?

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Anonymous wrote:Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.

Does this still apply if woman is divorced and has teenaged kids?

Yes. I am that exact person.

I am 48. I date 30s men. I will never remarry.

I’m 40 and I’ve found early to mid 30s is the sweet spot for me. Older guys for the most part look terrible. I’ve spent my whole life taking care of my skin and body, I just can’t get into a wrinkly guy who’s let himself go.

I’ve also noticed older guys are looking for a more traditional woman who will cook and clean, and that ain’t me.

Currently dating a 30yo and he’s great. It’s the first relationship where I’ve truly felt like an equal and not a surrogate mommy.

I am 43F and very overweight for my height. Getting likes or clicks from men on my profile is easy but maybe less than 10% of them would carry a consistent conversation and less than 2% of them would be willing to meet on a date. Again, finding sex is easy but not very meaningful for me so dating has to lead somewhere and I just don't date because of sex. I am having very very hard time in finding someone who would be interested in LTR. My last relationship was 3+ years ago and now I see that to be much better than what I am getting out there now. Maybe I would have tried harder in my previous relationship but who knew. anyway, finding any way of LTR is extremely difficult at my age though not impossible.

Anonymous wrote:Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.

Does this still apply if woman is divorced and has teenaged kids?

Women in their forties appeal to men of all ages. An attractive woman age 43-49 has a staggering array of choices. Feel like dating a college athlete? Feel like dating someone five to ten years younger? Feel like dating someone your own age? Feel like dating a top corporate executive in his late fifties or early sixties? All are easily achievable. They are all swiping right.

I'm not on apps. I have a network of friends who invite me to parties, where men gather. They all know I'm into meeting people and think of me the minute someone else is looking.
I'm 48 and got a call from a 30-year old the other day. I'll try to find time to meet him.
I'm my type's type, which helps a lot.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

I've seen a lot of women in this area pushing a newborn and they looked a decade older than me. I Don't take real good care of myself but I don't drink and I don't smoke. I never have but I am a night owl and I am really bad about putting on moisturizer or sunscreen. So I think at best I might not take good care of myself all the time. And I also love to eat out but I'm not fat.

Probably because they’re exhausted – at any age.

Anonymous wrote:Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

I've seen a lot of women in this area pushing a newborn and they looked a decade older than me. I Don't take real good care of myself but I don't drink and I don't smoke. I never have but I am a night owl and I am really bad about putting on moisturizer or sunscreen. So I think at best I might not take good care of myself all the time. And I also love to eat out but I'm not fat.

Early forties is not old. I looked my absolute best at age 40 even after having 3 kids.

If you don’t even have kids, take good care of yourself, you can easily look good and attract men of all ages.

I’m pushing 50 and definitely no longer at my peak.

So if you're a woman and you're in my case of my early forties, who do you get hit on by the most? And do you get a lot of attention on the apps? Just asking because I am and I am getting a lot of attention from in their twenties thirties and early '40s but I think my sweet spot for me is thirties. The 20 something year old men say they want to get married and have a relationship. I also noticed that for the younger guys they are overwhelmingly white or South and East Asian. I am neither. But I am getting maybe 60 likes every 30 minutes so I just turned it off and make myself invisible. But just curious how the other 40 somethings are doing. I also don't appear my age and I keep getting this from the guys on there. I also keep getting asked to photo verify from the guys but no way I'm doing that cuz I know my information is stored on the app forever.