Anonymous wrote:I’ll never forget my extraordinarily critical, negative boss (who I mostly liked because she replicated my high -functioning, completely dysfunctional family environment perfectly) being mad about a slide they showed in her remedial management class the same week as a thing that upset her at work. There were quadrants in the class that showed a survey of managers who were:
Competent/Well liked
Competent/Disliked
Incompetent/Well liked
Incompetent//Disliked
She found it astonishing that anyone would choose an incompetent but kind boss over a competent but harsh one, despite the vast majority of employees voting that way.
The upsetting work thing for my boss was that a colleague she revered had been demoted for slapping a subordinate (I am not making this up.) When she was ranting about the injustice done to her abusive colleague by some useless peon, I reminded her about the survey. She turned red and stomped away. She did moderate her behavior thereafter.
Meh. I work with a lot of competent, but disliked people (yay lawyers!). I would work for anyone but someone who is incompetent. I can’t stand stupidity and I won’t work for an idiot. I’m not a toddler and I don’t need people to be kind to me.
That being said, I go out of my way to support my employees. I’m not sure if they like me, but I am kind and competent.