Anonymous wrote:There is a guy with whom I graduated HS. He is in his late 50s and has never been married or had kids. He was/is still very good looking. He seems to have a great life. He has a steady job. He plays in a band with friends for fun. He has taken up several cool hobbies, one of which is photography and posts his pictures online.(really cool perspectives and exposures) He volunteers as a docent at several museums in the city he lives in. He volunteers for other charitable organizations like food banks and Habitat. He has many friends in the city and is close with his family.

If he were a woman, people would say his life is rich and full. Because he is a man, and a really good looking one at that, there must be something wrong with him.

Gay

They usually don't have much of a sex drive. They don't get turned on unless the woman is really hot and they will go months without if a really hot woman isn't available. When they do get lucky, eventually the glitter wears off when they see the woman without makeup or sick. It just isn't that important to them to get regular sex.

Narcissist or gay.

Who cares?

A message for younger women: don't date these guys unless you have ZERO expectation of a serious longterm relationship. If you want real commitment, look for men closer to your own age who have a demonstrated history of valuing commitment.

They are super picky while not being real prizes themselves. They have some kind of mild mental illness. They usually charming and adorable, which is why women fall for them

There is a guy with whom I graduated HS. He is in his late 50s and has never been married or had kids. He was/is still very good looking. He seems to have a great life. He has a steady job. He plays in a band with friends for fun. He has taken up several cool hobbies, one of which is photography and posts his pictures online.(really cool perspectives and exposures) He volunteers as a docent at several museums in the city he lives in. He volunteers for other charitable organizations like food banks and Habitat. He has many friends in the city and is close with his family.

If he were a woman, people would say his life is rich and full. Because he is a man, and a really good looking one at that, there must be something wrong with him.

It’s fine for them. I don’t have any strong opinions about people who are living their lives honestly. Serious question, OP, but why do you care?

If that's what they want ro do then go for it. Much better than sticking themselves into a marriage box out if societal expectation and ruining a family. More guys should just be who they are.

I (very briefly) dated a guy like this in my 20s. He thought of himself as a James-Bond type. His ideal relationship was one where we only saw each other a couple times a year and he was free to sleep with other women. His ultimate goal was to find a woman to impregnate, she would raise the kids essentially solo and he would drop in and out as he pleased.

Not surprisingly, nobody took him up on that offer.

He's now early 40s and still lives the bachelor lifestyle. Funny enough, we're still friends and talk a couple times a year. He's basically miserable and complains that women only want him for his money and the expensive vacations he provides, nobody actually wants him for *him*. Well, duh, nobody wants that kind of man.

I'm not too judgmental. He had a very rough childhood, was abandoned by his parents, obviously has severe attachment issues. Although it's interesting, one of my other close friends was also abandoned by his parents and is the exact opposite: always wanted to be a good husband and father, settled down, and is 100% committed to his family.

Not much different than married couples without children. Kids make you grow up.

After I date them they marry the next person...

It’s all good, as long as nobody I care about is trying to date them.

Let them

I dated a man like this. Briefly: looking for a unicorn/commitment-averse.

I have come across heterosexual men who are 40+ that never married and never had children. A few have never lived with a romantic partner. They spend their time in nightclubs, picking up much younger women, traveling with male friends (rarely with female companions) looking for the new hot party/club/lounges, etc.

What do you honestly make of men like this (being judgemental is included)?