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Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry this happened to her. My heart sank reading about her story and how she was treated after reporting it. Just crushing. I'm so glad that she turned her tragic story of abuse and now uses all that grit and strength to help others. A warrior.

She told her story on a podcast. Worth listening all the way through: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ud8fglEmC03tGGTkEiXWu?si=vCckSgJQRDiu8oXWddYPSg&pi=3z7x-zwoT5W5n&nd=1&dlsi=1a9699c360684113

Not unique to Lowell. All middle and high schools (public and private) are failing the majority (yes majority) of their students. Everyone things this happens at "other" schools and not their own. Sadly, you are wrong. Sadly, you don't want to be confronted with the fact that you're wrong and I get it.....but you are absolutely wrong.

I watched it all the way through. I was sobbing at points and enraged at others. If you are a Lowell parent, you should be beyond outraged about how the school treated this 13 year-old both before and after she reported being SA'd and threatened. The actions of her 13 year-old abuser were horrifying and disgusting beyond belief. I wouldn't wish what she went through on anyone. What really got me was how the administrator and her guidance counselor, who she had to tell what happened in graphic detail, gaslit her with the idea that she should be very careful with accusations since she routinely held her abuser's hand (they were in a relationship), she could have been culpable for SA too. After she reported, her abuser trashed her to the entire grade and threatened to kill her and her mother over text message. She shared those messages with the administrator who told her he would tell her teachers to keep the two of them apart. But the administrator apparently never told the teachers anything because she was forced into multiple situations where she had to encounter him in very close quarters. This degree of negligence is astounding and indefensible. The administrator's inaction resulted in her having emotional breakdowns in class. Because her teachers didn't know what was going on, they just assumed that she was sloughing off her work or was somehow a problem kid. She and her abuser were told that neither could talk about what happened or they would be suspended or expelled, but that didn't matter because he had already trashed her, which resulted in her being relentlessly bullied for the rest of the school year. Her mother was told that if she was uncomfortable being around him on school trips, she shouldn't go. Teachers stood by as they observed her being mass bullied. She described a lot of other important details... just listen to the testimony. She was then told that after twelve years of attending the school, she would not be able to attend her graduation because they didn't want a disturbance.

Lowell parents: you are accustomed to believing that the school is immune to this sort of behavior because of social justice marketing and various other attempts at greenwashing. Everyone should listen to what this child went through and then re-determine if they feel like this is a safe environment for kids. Those who allowed this to happen are still there.

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I'm glad she is telling her story now. I listened to the podcast and I kept going back to why would Lowell allow an expelled student to begin in the middle of 7th grade? Money? It sounds desperate, like there was no standard for admission. Then it was confirmed, Lowell was failing financially and most likely saw the student (and his younger siblings) as a jackpot. What a joke. Hearing what went on is beyond heartbreaking. As a parent, I would be beyond livid. The victim's family had been a family that was there since preschool. They are the community and were being tossed aside because of a random wealthy, problem child who attended the school as a last ditch effort to not have to homeschool him and so Lowell could receive a few extra dollars? All for him to be "asked to leave" in a matter of months after the irreversible damage to a longstanding member of their community was done. And more confirmation that money talks, he was able to go on to another school where there was probably no idea of what they were getting because he left Lowell scott-free.

All that she was showing outwardly, absolutely should've been a red flag for the adults at the school. Does Lowell just have no idea who/what their students are? She was there for literal YEARS. Did no one notice a change? Did they just not care?

Seems like for all the presumed "pluses" of being in a small school like Lowell, that completely goes out the window if there is ever anything that will leave your child as an outsider. So much for Lowell's core values. I know middle school is tough, but did zero of the other students (that she literally grew up with) decide to be a leader and stand up for what is right and just? Hopefully, because this was like 10 years ago, Lowell has significantly changed how it exists and removed the bad apples.

And, is it not typical for schools to list faculty on their sites? For every school we have applied to, I've gone on the school sites to learn more about the head of school, but also because I want to see who is who amongst faculty.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry this happened to her. My heart sank reading about her story and how she was treated after reporting it. Just crushing. I'm so glad that she turned her tragic story of abuse and now uses all that grit and strength to help others. A warrior.

She told her story on a podcast. Worth listening all the way through: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ud8fglEmC03tGGTkEiXWu?si=vCckSgJQRDiu8oXWddYPSg&pi=3z7x-zwoT5W5n&nd=1&dlsi=1a9699c360684113

Not unique to Lowell. All middle and high schools (public and private) are failing the majority (yes majority) of their students. Everyone things this happens at "other" schools and not their own. Sadly, you are wrong. Sadly, you don't want to be confronted with the fact that you're wrong and I get it.....but you are absolutely wrong.

I watched it all the way through. I was sobbing at points and enraged at others. If you are a Lowell parent, you should be beyond outraged about how the school treated this 13 year-old both before and after she reported being SA'd and threatened. The actions of her 13 year-old abuser were horrifying and disgusting beyond belief. I wouldn't wish what she went through on anyone. What really got me was how the administrator and her guidance counselor, who she had to tell what happened in graphic detail, gaslit her with the idea that she should be very careful with accusations since she routinely held her abuser's hand (they were in a relationship), she could have been culpable for SA too. After she reported, her abuser trashed her to the entire grade and threatened to kill her and her mother over text message. She shared those messages with the administrator who told her he would tell her teachers to keep the two of them apart. But the administrator apparently never told the teachers anything because she was forced into multiple situations where she had to encounter him in very close quarters. This degree of negligence is astounding and indefensible. The administrator's inaction resulted in her having emotional breakdowns in class. Because her teachers didn't know what was going on, they just assumed that she was sloughing off her work or was somehow a problem kid. She and her abuser were told that neither could talk about what happened or they would be suspended or expelled, but that didn't matter because he had already trashed her, which resulted in her being relentlessly bullied for the rest of the school year. Her mother was told that if she was uncomfortable being around him on school trips, she shouldn't go. Teachers stood by as they observed her being mass bullied. She described a lot of other important details... just listen to the testimony. She was then told that after twelve years of attending the school, she would not be able to attend her graduation because they didn't want a disturbance.

Lowell parents: you are accustomed to believing that the school is immune to this sort of behavior because of social justice marketing and various other attempts at greenwashing. Everyone should listen to what this child went through and then re-determine if they feel like this is a safe environment for kids. Those who allowed this to happen are still there.

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Who are the people still there?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry this happened to her. My heart sank reading about her story and how she was treated after reporting it. Just crushing. I'm so glad that she turned her tragic story of abuse and now uses all that grit and strength to help others. A warrior.

She told her story on a podcast. Worth listening all the way through: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ud8fglEmC03tGGTkEiXWu?si=vCckSgJQRDiu8oXWddYPSg&pi=3z7x-zwoT5W5n&nd=1&dlsi=1a9699c360684113

Not unique to Lowell. All middle and high schools (public and private) are failing the majority (yes majority) of their students. Everyone things this happens at "other" schools and not their own. Sadly, you are wrong. Sadly, you don't want to be confronted with the fact that you're wrong and I get it.....but you are absolutely wrong.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry this happened to her. My heart sank reading about her story and how she was treated after reporting it. Just crushing. I'm so glad that she turned her tragic story of abuse and now uses all that grit and strength to help others. A warrior.

She told her story on a podcast. Worth listening all the way through: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Ud8fglEmC03tGGTkEiXWu?si=vCckSgJQRDiu8oXWddYPSg&pi=3z7x-zwoT5W5n&nd=1&dlsi=1a9699c360684113

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry this happened to her. My heart sank reading about her story and how she was treated after reporting it. Just crushing. I'm so glad that she turned her tragic story of abuse and now uses all that grit and strength to help others. A warrior.