Anonymous
01/07/2026 18:03
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Everyone knows it costs 6k and you didn’t say I am paying for all of it so people should expect the bill is coming.
Just text them how much each of them owe you.
Just text them how much each of them owe you.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 17:43
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I know you have realized it now, but it's kind of astounding that you (or anyone else) didn't think of working this out ahead of time. And everyone besides that one cousin is a giant a-hole for not offering to pay.
This but also why didn't you say in the beginning, hey cheap family, here is a house for the week for $6k. I'll send everyone a venmo request once I get the final cost. I would charge per room. The most for the primary bedroom, and then less for a room with attached bath. Probably 50-60% for a room with a shared bath. If everyone is normal they will all just say we will pay an equal share
If she sent a link to the house, they all saw the price. They are simply hoping to weasel out of paying. I’d say something like, as in the original link the total amount came to X and attach the receipt . I think we should split it this way out of fairness. Please Venmo me as soon as possible as this is a large outlay of cash for us.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 17:20
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Anonymous wrote:I know you have realized it now, but it's kind of astounding that you (or anyone else) didn't think of working this out ahead of time. And everyone besides that one cousin is a giant a-hole for not offering to pay.
This but also why didn't you say in the beginning, hey cheap family, here is a house for the week for $6k. I'll send everyone a venmo request once I get the final cost. I would charge per room. The most for the primary bedroom, and then less for a room with attached bath. Probably 50-60% for a room with a shared bath. If everyone is normal they will all just say we will pay an equal share
Anonymous
01/07/2026 17:04
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
This is a tough one. When you posted the property, did you give people an opportunity to weigh in? Because suddenly hitting them up for $1000 for a weekend in a house they didn’t choose when a hotel state would’ve been 500. For example isn’t going to go down well. If, when you shared it, they all said they liked it then this should be a much smaller ask. Keep the math simple just do bedroom withbath vs. bedroom without.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 16:49
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Anonymous wrote:I'm also shocked you didn't work this out and get money from them before the reunion. You know you'll be paying the bulk of this, right? You were dumb to have laid out the money without getting people to pay you first.
Her family is trash though. So there’s that.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 16:34
Subject: Re:Rental house for family reunion
Wow. Yeah, you messed up OP.
I travel a lot with friends. A couple ways to handle.
Person nights. All adults are 1 person. Kids are 0.5 person. This can work well if some people only came for some nights. Amount gets equally divided by person nights and then you distribute the costs to everyone based on how many person nights they used.
Split total cost by bedrooms and assign costs by who took bedrooms.
If you had to get a house big enough for a bunch of families for the full amount of nights and people were non-committal or not sure who would come or for how long, you can also just split evenly by family. So if just Bob comes one night he still pays as much as if he brought Bob and Sue and kids. Because you had to get a house big enough for the possibility Bob might come for all the nights with his whole family.
This last way is how I prefer to handle but it's best to say upfront.
I travel a lot with friends. A couple ways to handle.
Person nights. All adults are 1 person. Kids are 0.5 person. This can work well if some people only came for some nights. Amount gets equally divided by person nights and then you distribute the costs to everyone based on how many person nights they used.
Split total cost by bedrooms and assign costs by who took bedrooms.
If you had to get a house big enough for a bunch of families for the full amount of nights and people were non-committal or not sure who would come or for how long, you can also just split evenly by family. So if just Bob comes one night he still pays as much as if he brought Bob and Sue and kids. Because you had to get a house big enough for the possibility Bob might come for all the nights with his whole family.
This last way is how I prefer to handle but it's best to say upfront.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 15:09
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Start a group chat and tell them that you had a great time and the expenses came to 6k.
Divided the 6k by the amount of adults who can pay and tell them the amount.
If they have different ideas let them share it to the group.
Divided the 6k by the amount of adults who can pay and tell them the amount.
If they have different ideas let them share it to the group.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 14:22
Subject: Re:Rental house for family reunion
So my guess is they know you weren’t planning on treating them but are hoping if they don’t say anything, you will be too scared to ask. If they believed you were treating them, wouldn’t at least one say thank you?
They are behaving like people who notice a cashier hasn’t rung up one item in the bag but don’t say anything. They rationalize it’s not stealing because the cashier made a mistake and are gleeful to score a freebie!
They are behaving like people who notice a cashier hasn’t rung up one item in the bag but don’t say anything. They rationalize it’s not stealing because the cashier made a mistake and are gleeful to score a freebie!
Anonymous
01/07/2026 12:40
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
This absolutely should have been discussed and settled well before the trip.
I’d divide the cost equally by who all attended or occupied one of those eight rooms.
Get ready for shock when you ask for this well after the fact
Do keep us posted on this unexpected invoice goes over.
Never do what you did again - unless you’re treating.
I’d divide the cost equally by who all attended or occupied one of those eight rooms.
Get ready for shock when you ask for this well after the fact
Do keep us posted on this unexpected invoice goes over.
Never do what you did again - unless you’re treating.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 11:59
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Oh nooooo they think you are paying for this. Is that going to be impossible for you?
Anonymous
01/07/2026 11:59
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Anonymous wrote:My mom's side of the family planned a reunion over the holidays. We met in a convenient city, but no one would agree on where to stay so I suggested renting a large house. On the family chat, I posted the link to the house, which costed me $6K for the weekend. It had 8 bedrooms and a pool, etc. Everyone said had a great time, and each person contributed to food & drinks. However, no one except one cousin has reached out asking how much they owe for the house. I'm going to send the receipt to the group chat, but I don't know if I should split the costs by bedroom (which were all different - some had attached baths while others did not; some had queen beds and others king beds, etc) or by person (there were some little kids so prob would not count them). Anyone who's done something like this have a good suggestion of how to split the housing cost? I realize now that in the future this should have been decided beforehand! Lesson learned!
Split it by room. The only difference would be if one room had an attached bathroom that was solely used by the occupants of that room. I wouldn’t try to make some rooms cheaper than others based on queen or king beds.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 11:56
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
Anonymous wrote:I'm also shocked you didn't work this out and get money from them before the reunion. You know you'll be paying the bulk of this, right? You were dumb to have laid out the money without getting people to pay you first.
This. They all assume either you or your mom were treating them. Family sucks!
Anonymous
01/07/2026 11:50
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
I'm also shocked you didn't work this out and get money from them before the reunion. You know you'll be paying the bulk of this, right? You were dumb to have laid out the money without getting people to pay you first.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 11:11
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
I know you have realized it now, but it's kind of astounding that you (or anyone else) didn't think of working this out ahead of time. And everyone besides that one cousin is a giant a-hole for not offering to pay.
Anonymous
01/07/2026 11:05
Subject: Rental house for family reunion
My mom's side of the family planned a reunion over the holidays. We met in a convenient city, but no one would agree on where to stay so I suggested renting a large house. On the family chat, I posted the link to the house, which costed me $6K for the weekend. It had 8 bedrooms and a pool, etc. Everyone said had a great time, and each person contributed to food & drinks. However, no one except one cousin has reached out asking how much they owe for the house. I'm going to send the receipt to the group chat, but I don't know if I should split the costs by bedroom (which were all different - some had attached baths while others did not; some had queen beds and others king beds, etc) or by person (there were some little kids so prob would not count them). Anyone who's done something like this have a good suggestion of how to split the housing cost? I realize now that in the future this should have been decided beforehand! Lesson learned!