Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 10:59     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
Anonymous wrote:Your child has no obligation whatsoever to withdraw the others.

My 2c is the kind thing to do would be withdrawing any applications for schools they know they won't be attending for sure. My guess is there are some on that list. I know some students in this boat who aren't withdrawing "just to see whether I'd get in", and to me, that feels unkind to other students who genuinely want to attend those schools.


No obligation whatsoever is not correct. Every kid with an acceptance (not just REA) has an obligation to withdraw apps from schools they won’t attend. It’s the obligation of being a good classmate and person.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 10:46     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
Your child has no obligation whatsoever to withdraw the others.

My 2c is the kind thing to do would be withdrawing any applications for schools they know they won't be attending for sure. My guess is there are some on that list. I know some students in this boat who aren't withdrawing "just to see whether I'd get in", and to me, that feels unkind to other students who genuinely want to attend those schools.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 10:36     Subject: Re:Withdrawing Apps
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, no. Count your lucky stars and withdraw all other apps. The only 90% is BS and you know it.


Agree with this. My kid withdrew all apps two day after getting in H/Y/P. He also advanced in the Morehead Cain and withdrew that.

Don’t trophy hunt.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 10:34     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
Anonymous wrote:DS got into a HYP REA and even though he wasn’t sure he’d accept, he did withdraw a few apps of schools he knew he wouldn’t choose over the REA.



Where is your child considering going instead?
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 10:29     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
I could see turning down a safety or two if you know money is no object.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 10:29     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
Anonymous wrote:It would be kind to release the schools he knows he would not consider over the SCEA school. It’s okay to sit on the rest until certain.

Prioritize your child, play by the rules, and offer grace to others where you can.


Stop with the guilt trip. This kid doesn’t have to respond until May 1. That’s the rules.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 10:17     Subject: Re:Withdrawing Apps
Yeah, no. Count your lucky stars and withdraw all other apps. The only 90% is BS and you know it.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 08:49     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
DS got into a HYP REA and even though he wasn’t sure he’d accept, he did withdraw a few apps of schools he knew he wouldn’t choose over the REA.

Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 08:34     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
90% certain means uncertain with kids applying to college. Keep open. I'm assuming OP's kid probably applied to highly ranked public(s) with single digit OOS admit rates. Wait it out and tour all schools if admitted to the others. Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2026 21:57     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
Anonymous wrote:If DC received acceptance SCEA to his first choice school, should he withdraw the public school applications he's submitted? The agreement from the SCEA school is that he just needs to reply by May 1, and that he just can't hold places at two schools beyond May 1. The public school applications were submitted before he heard back from the SCEA school. He's 90% sure he'll accept the SCEA offer, but it's still a long time away.


Yes he should withdraw the public school applications because he is not going to go to them. He should only keep in apps at schools he may choose over the SCEA school, but since he is in at his first choice school, it sounds like there are no other private apps.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2026 20:54     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
It would be kind to release the schools he knows he would not consider over the SCEA school. It’s okay to sit on the rest until certain.

Prioritize your child, play by the rules, and offer grace to others where you can.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2026 20:51     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
Great, thanks for the advice!
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2026 20:49     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
No need to withdraw unless your DC formally commits to the SCEA school.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2026 20:46     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
Don’t withdraw the others until you’re certain.

If you’re now certain that some schools are out, you could withdraw just those apps.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2026 20:43     Subject: Withdrawing Apps
If DC received acceptance SCEA to his first choice school, should he withdraw the public school applications he's submitted? The agreement from the SCEA school is that he just needs to reply by May 1, and that he just can't hold places at two schools beyond May 1. The public school applications were submitted before he heard back from the SCEA school. He's 90% sure he'll accept the SCEA offer, but it's still a long time away.