Get an STD test and stop the benefits. Items don't just show up. He lies or is a blackout drunk.

Stop sleeping with people you’re not in an actual relationship with.

You can't "cheat" on a FWB. That's why they're a FWB instead of a BF/GF.

He's not into you. I am sorry. Cut ties.

Move on, it's not working for you and you are not compatible. And he isn't a friend.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re an FWB, not “good friends.”
Just ask him about it.

I asked about it and he played dumb. Said he doesn’t know who’s stuff it is, and that he’s not sleeping with anyone else.

Lying and disrespect are not exactly the same but they overlap.

It's emotionally dangerous to be in an intimate relationship with a liar.

Mystery items don't just show up. I would not trust any exclusivity agreement with a liar. If he didn't have any explanation that makes sense, I think that you're correct to stop the fwb aspect.

It is possible to enjoy the company of an unreliable person while not trusting what they say. OK to stay friends.

The great thing about fwb is that it's light, easy, and enjoyable. If it's not that, I wouldn't want it anymore.

He's not cheating on you.
Stop sleeping with him.
Stop settling for pseudo relationships.
Stop making life more complicated than it needs to be

This isn’t what you thought it was. Heightened risk. Move on

It sounds like you have feeling for him and he doesn’t reciprocate. You are good friends and are sleeping with him and are jealous that he is apparently seeing someone else? Time to lay it on the line. Either you start to actually date or you stop sleeping with him, because it’s clearly not working for you.

Stop sleeping with him. Take a break from seeing him. Then you can both decide if you still want to be friends. Just like with any breakup.

Anonymous wrote:You’re an FWB, not “good friends.”
Just ask him about it.

I asked about it and he played dumb. Said he doesn’t know who’s stuff it is, and that he’s not sleeping with anyone else.

He has a girlfriend now.

You’re an FWB, not “good friends.”
Just ask him about it.

I have an exclusive FWB. We have an agreement that if either of us wants to sleep with someone else we will give the other a heads up. Women’s items that are not mine have been popping up at his place, so I’m pretty sure he’s violating our agreement. And I don’t want to sleep with him anymore.

The thing is that we are also actually good friends or so I thought. But now I feel disrespected. If you were in my shoes would you also end the friendship?