Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.

Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.

NP. Meh. My mom was 43 when she had her 4th. And 47 when she had her 5th. Not in DC.

Yea, your mom was old AF.

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Other kids were 6, 4, 2

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.

Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.

Stop it with your judgement. I'm the PP who had a first at 25 and tried to get a third in my 40s. I can afford it, and I have all my wits about me. People are more capable than you think.

Has nothing to do with affording it and nothing to do with your wits or capabilities. It's human biology.

40 with the 4th, kids were 10, 8 and 5.
44 with the 5th!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.

Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.

NP. Meh. My mom was 43 when she had her 4th. And 47 when she had her 5th. Not in DC.

I'm one of four kids, my youngest sibling born when my mom was 43. And that last baby did take a ton out of mom, she was on bedrest and really struggled with her health. I love my youngest sibling very very much, but it's not a choice I'd make for myself.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.

Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.

Stop it with your judgement. I'm the PP who had a first at 25 and tried to get a third in my 40s. I can afford it, and I have all my wits about me. People are more capable than you think.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.

Yes that IS old by DC standards. It's too damned old to have a baby, especially even you already have kids.

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Kids were 10, 8, 6 and 2

I was 29.
Kids were 5, 3, & 21 months.

I was 47. Older kids were 10,12,14. Didn’t expect to get pregnant again but it was a happy surprise! Baby perfectly healthy.

DH and I always talked about having 4. I am 42 now and while I know that isn’t old in DC standards I am hesitant to have another. But I get wistful sometimes thinking our family isn’t complete.

Why?

Hmm. I was 44 when I had my last and 7th miscarriage. Does that count? Would have loved an actual baby, of course. Older kids were 19 and 14 at the time.

How old were you when you had your 4th kid and how old were your other kids?