Anonymous wrote:They put more effort during the finding phase but not that much during the keeping phase.

Yup many women don’t know how to keep a man. Its not hard ladies, use your common sense

Anonymous wrote:Based on the divorce stories here, not enough effort is put into finding a partner.

Or perhaps they themselves were not the right partners

What effort are you talking about?

The effort I put in is spending some time on dating apps and dressing well for dates. But I don’t waste a lot of time messaging men, and I certainly don’t chase down men and try to compete with other women for a specific man. If I have to compete, he’s not the right guy for me.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you always ask such dumb questions?

As someone with a child on the spectrum, I feel pretty sure OP is autistic. They are genuinely curious and don’t perceive how it comes across.

Anonymous wrote:Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?

Women say they don't compete with other women for men. However, given the amount of effort they put to find the right partner, it seems as if they are competing for men.

The costs of you choose wrong are so much higher for women.

Anonymous wrote:Based on the divorce stories here, not enough effort is put into finding a partner.

+1.

OP is an idiot.

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is competing with everyone for everything. There’s an entire field of study to describe this phenomenon it’s called economics.

End thread. Lol

We’re competing, but we don’t all want the same prize. I have a friend who wanted a charismatic DH. That’s not for me. Another friend wanted a wealthy DH. I wouldn’t say no, but finances weren’t a priority after a certain threshold. Etc., etc.

Both sexes compete for partners. Unfortunately, often the characteristics that win that competition while dating are only loosely aligned with the ones that create healthy long term relationships

They put more effort during the finding phase but not that much during the keeping phase.

Why do you always ask such dumb questions?

Based on the divorce stories here, not enough effort is put into finding a partner.

depends on the age group. If you are in your 40s, and have been married with kids before, the desire to find the right partner goes down. Some have given up, others have deep desire but frustrated with the whole dating situation. I also see some single never married women in 40s that are just exhausted from dating so not sure why being picky is so important...

Everyone is competing with everyone for everything. There’s an entire field of study to describe this phenomenon it’s called economics.

Why do women put so much effort to find the right partner?

Women say they don't compete with other women for men. However, given the amount of effort they put to find the right partner, it seems as if they are competing for men.