Sounds normal. You have more yesterdays than tomorrows at this point in your life.

Definitely sounds like anxiety. I was overwhelmed with these kinds of thoughts and scenarios and ruminating. I went on an SSRI- which really did help but tapered off after six months. I gained 15 lbs seemingly over night and didn’t like the blunted feelings thing. Other than that it did stop the anxiety so I probably should have stuck with it.

Sounds like anxiety. Medication can do wonders, OP!

I think about this a lot but I just assumed it was more mid-life than hormonal. I've been with my DH for 20 years, sometimes when I get annoyed with him or with aspects of our life together, my mind will think about "what if" I'd married someone else or not gotten married. Ultimately I always conclude it's better that I did what I did, but I think about it.

Also playing this game with career, thinking about specific jobs I took or didn't take, choices I made in my specialization, etc. As you get older more and more doors are closed to you so I think it's normal to think "oh what if I'd gone into family law like I thought about doing in law school? what would my life be like now?" Again, I don't think about these things with regret really, more just speculating on how my life would be different had I made other choices.

Is that what you mean? I think it's really normal as you get older.

That sounds like anxiety to me.

An increase in rumination is common although I think the topics can be anything.

As we move toward the end of our life span this is normal...to reflect that health and life are not unlimited

Read about mental fog and mood. Wondering, is it a variation of depression/a depression adjacent symptom of menopause to have the what if moments coming up more in your mind or is this just midlife? Honestly hoping some others found it more tied to menopause and HRT helped it go away?