I met my spouse in college so it feels like we more helped each other up than anything else.

Anonymous wrote:Almost every one marries the best they could get. They would have gotten better if they could.

This^.

Anonymous wrote:Or do you think you’re about at the same level? How old are you?

In our 50's. Cumulatively, we are at the same level, equal in most, I'm up in few and he in other few but overall same league.

Definitely me (the woman)

I married up socially. I am from a blue collar background. My parents did eventually graduate college doing part time / evening programs after I was born, but I am the first generation to go to college full time. My husband’s grandparents are college graduates. His mom was an editor at a major publisher, dad was a college professor, chair of the department.

He married up financially, though. He’s been underemployed pretty much all the time we’ve been married, after he got his PhD. I am making multiples of what he does. I’ll probably get a bigger inheritance too - my parents were very smart (and somewhat lucky) with real estate.

From Anne Lamott: "A good marriage is where both people feel like they're getting the better end of the deal."

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/105290-a-good-marriage-is-where-both-people-feel-like-they-re

I'd say the same level. There are some things that would make me the one who married up and there are some that would make him be the one.

i married up in smarts, he married up in looks (this sounds so classic).

My ex wife thought I married up in pretty much every way.

Anonymous wrote:Both of us, in different ways.

Same

My friend from a middle class is married to a trust fund baby. She makes double what he does. Is that "married up?"

Both of us, in different ways.

Who thinks this way

Almost every one marries the best they could get. They would have gotten better if they could.

Or do you think you’re about at the same level? How old are you?