Anonymous
12/15/2025 06:26
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
I’m 53. It’s a term of endearment, I’m ok with it.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 06:24
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Life is to short - if I don’t think they are trying to be an a** I let it go.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 04:44
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.
Gen X female here: I'd consider it sexual harassment if you called me that. And if I were your waitress I'd accidentally-on=purpose spill a drink or soup in your lap. Oops, sorry darlin'.
And yet courts wouldn't consider it sexual harassment.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 03:32
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Anonymous wrote:Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.
Are you wearing a 10-gallon Stetson hat when you do this?
Anonymous
12/15/2025 02:14
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Anonymous wrote:Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.
Gen X female here: I'd consider it sexual harassment if you called me that. And if I were your waitress I'd accidentally-on=purpose spill a drink or soup in your lap. Oops, sorry darlin'.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 01:43
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
I live it
Anonymous
12/15/2025 01:37
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 01:34
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Depends on the context. An elderly person, not a problem. A condescending male (I am female), I cut them off and say, "excuse me, but you do not know me well enough to refer to me as 'honey' or 'deer,' it's Mrs. Smith."
Anonymous
12/15/2025 01:18
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t phase me.
Faze
Anonymous
12/15/2025 01:13
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Dear is fine.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 01:13
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
If I'm never going to see them again, like a waitress in a restaurant in a town I'm passing through, then I let it go. If it's someone I work with, I reply "My name is Lauren."
Anonymous
12/15/2025 00:54
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Doesn't bother me at all and I'm almost 40 and still get called those names.
Anonymous
12/15/2025 00:49
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
It doesn’t phase me.
Anonymous
12/14/2025 23:26
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
Lol. Happens on DCUM a lot.
Anonymous
12/14/2025 23:16
Subject: Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc
I’m a 30 something and still have random strangers call me things like “doll, dear, sweetie” etc. I’m wondering if I should say something or let it go. I feel like I’m too old at this point to be called this.