Anonymous
12/21/2025 10:11
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Together
Anonymous
12/20/2025 20:34
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Co-parent? You're not married? That's where your problem started.
Anonymous
12/20/2025 20:13
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Anonymous wrote:If it’s not your choice, let the coparent tell.
That's what i did. She told our MC that "we'd tell them we'd decided to separate", to which I said, "no way: you're deleting our family against my will, you tell them. I will not lie to them that it's mutual."
Anonymous
12/14/2025 22:00
Subject: Re:Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Wow you have three kids including one so young and are separating? Try again to make it work.
Anonymous
12/14/2025 19:48
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
If it’s not your choice, let the coparent tell.
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:53
Subject: Re:Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Anonymous wrote:What does your therapist/counselor say? Surely you have one because you’ve done everything possible to avoid destroying your family.
What a horrible thing to say to someone. Do you think this is my choice? I hope you are never in this situation and if you are someone shows you a little bit of compassion instead of being a massive c word. Merry Christmas.
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:47
Subject: Re:Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
What does your therapist/counselor say? Surely you have one because you’ve done everything possible to avoid destroying your family.
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:43
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Anonymous wrote:I think you should work out a plan, do it, and then explain. For that age group—It’s like telling them a hurricane is coming. And then asking them to stay out and everything will remain the same. You are just going to make them loose sleep for your own purposes.
Do whatever you want — but think about it
7 years old just started second grade? They really don’t need a formal announcement. You need to stop arguing and show them stability. Show, not tell.
What?
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:40
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
“stay put”
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:40
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
I think you should work out a plan, do it, and then explain. For that age group—It’s like telling them a hurricane is coming. And then asking them to stay out and everything will remain the same. You are just going to make them loose sleep for your own purposes.
Do whatever you want — but think about it
7 years old just started second grade? They really don’t need a formal announcement. You need to stop arguing and show them stability. Show, not tell.
Do whatever you want — but think about it
7 years old just started second grade? They really don’t need a formal announcement. You need to stop arguing and show them stability. Show, not tell.
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:27
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Definitely think the 3 yr old should be told separately. Maybe use the aid of a book - they won't get it.
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:23
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Since your little one is so little, tell the older two and then the little one. Because the language you need to use is so different and their reactions may be quite different. Seeing siblings upset is not something a 3yo needs. Give the older two a few hours to process it.
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:20
Subject: Re:Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Tell each individually.
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:05
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Should say "OR coparent and I"
Anonymous
12/13/2025 16:04
Subject: Tell kids individually or together that we are separating?
Kids are 7, 5 and 3. Very different personalities and temperaments. They will have very different reactions to the news. Should we sit down together all five of us and talk to coparent and I tell each of them individually?