Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, my brother texted me basically saying his son does not need any of the gifts we gave last year. It was pretty hurtful. My girls made a crayon craft for their son/my nephew and we bought him plenty of PJ’s and swim stuff.

They are just trying to cut down on the out-of-control-in-our-culture gifting culture.

NP. Fine- then they can let the dust settle and suggest an alternate gift-giving tradition (ie spending limit, Amazon wish list, no gifts, whatever). But when you get stuff you don't want the polite thing to do is say thank you and then donate or toss it.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, my brother texted me basically saying his son does not need any of the gifts we gave last year. It was pretty hurtful. My girls made a crayon craft for their son/my nephew and we bought him plenty of PJ’s and swim stuff.

They are just trying to cut down on the out-of-control-in-our-culture gifting culture.

That doesn't mean she hates you at all. It probably isn't even about you.

I gave my niece and nephew lots of gifts for years, but nothing to my BIL because I don't do gifts for adults. I asked them not to get any for me, and I didn't give any to my sister or BIL. I am beyond tired of the bs gifting that is done at Christmas. I do not need another lotion or perfume or sweater that I didn't pick out for myself. I can buy myself whatever I want, as can they. But there is magic in it all for kids. So I gave gifts to the kids (tried to avoid junk -- they got books from me every year and other things they would actually use, not plastic toys or whatever). It makes sense to me that you, OP, where given something small, whereas the kids were given a lot of stuff.

Why are you exchanging gifts with your SIL? You are both too old. Around June, tell her no more exchanging gifts. "We all have too much stuff." Blah, blah, blah. If you want to simply even more, stop with the kid gift gifting.

Regift all the items to the SIL and her kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just had a family, early Christmas gathering since we are going away for Christmas.

My SIL bought my DDs (6 and 8), hair chalk and glitter, a toy flute and drums, karaoke machine and bath bombs with more glitter that are guaranteed to stain my tub. She got me a single scrunchie and lip balm. I have never worn a scrunchie around her or ever in my adult life.

The kids have been on the instruments for the last hour and it’s driving me crazy.

How does one wrap a single scrunchie and a lip balm?

One puts it in a Tiffany jewelry box in order to troll the SIL she hates.

Anonymous wrote:We just had a family, early Christmas gathering since we are going away for Christmas.

My SIL bought my DDs (6 and 8), hair chalk and glitter, a toy flute and drums, karaoke machine and bath bombs with more glitter that are guaranteed to stain my tub. She got me a single scrunchie and lip balm. I have never worn a scrunchie around her or ever in my adult life.

The kids have been on the instruments for the last hour and it’s driving me crazy.

How does one wrap a single scrunchie and a lip balm?

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, my brother texted me basically saying his son does not need any of the gifts we gave last year. It was pretty hurtful. My girls made a crayon craft for their son/my nephew and we bought him plenty of PJ’s and swim stuff.

Those were last year's gifts?

Just give them a gift card for Amazon for the kid next year. Always give gift receipts with objects if you must. And it's okay for your kids to make things for their cousin anytime.

Some women like bath bombs, hair dye, and glitter or they wouldn't exist. A manners expert would tell you to assume there was no malice behind the gifts.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, my brother texted me basically saying his son does not need any of the gifts we gave last year. It was pretty hurtful. My girls made a crayon craft for their son/my nephew and we bought him plenty of PJ’s and swim stuff.

Coal in the stockings this year.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, my brother texted me basically saying his son does not need any of the gifts we gave last year. It was pretty hurtful. My girls made a crayon craft for their son/my nephew and we bought him plenty of PJ’s and swim stuff.

That is very rude!

Anonymous wrote:We just had a family, early Christmas gathering since we are going away for Christmas.

My SIL bought my DDs (6 and 8), hair chalk and glitter, a toy flute and drums, karaoke machine and bath bombs with more glitter that are guaranteed to stain my tub. She got me a single scrunchie and lip balm. I have never worn a scrunchie around her or ever in my adult life.

The kids have been on the instruments for the last hour and it’s driving me crazy.

Let the hair chalk and glitter and bath bombs disappear and let them enjoy the other stuff.

I don’t know, my brother texted me basically saying his son does not need any of the gifts we gave last year. It was pretty hurtful. My girls made a crayon craft for their son/my nephew and we bought him plenty of PJ’s and swim stuff.

She’s going to kill you with kindness.

You have a case. What did you do, lol.

We just had a family, early Christmas gathering since we are going away for Christmas.

My SIL bought my DDs (6 and 8), hair chalk and glitter, a toy flute and drums, karaoke machine and bath bombs with more glitter that are guaranteed to stain my tub. She got me a single scrunchie and lip balm. I have never worn a scrunchie around her or ever in my adult life.

The kids have been on the instruments for the last hour and it’s driving me crazy.