Dry weddings are the worst, but you have to appreciate and respect the couple and you know in advance what kind of couple/wedding it is! Otherwise you aren't close enough to be invited.

I think as a PP said as long as CC or venmo is accepted it's fine, as nobody has cash.

I'd rather there be a cash bar than no alcohol. Stop being petty. You're there to celebrate the couple, not for the free drinks.

Anonymous wrote:It’s pretty common where I’m from. Only wealthy people had open bars. And there weren’t many wealthy people. However usually it’s noted on the invitation.

It’s also common to have receptions in fire halls with a sandwich bar. So there’s that. We all loved them and they were the norm.

+1. I've been to a wedding in middle of nowhere, PA with a few kegs and sandwich bar in a firehall. Everyone had a great time.

Anonymous wrote:It’s not that uncommon. Personally I think it’s chintzy, but people planning a wedding on a tight budget have to make choices, and it’s not an irrational one.

Where are you from that this is “not that uncommon?” I’ve lived in the Midwest, the Northeast, and the Mid-Atlantic, and have never seen a cash bar at a wedding.

It’s pretty common where I’m from. Only wealthy people had open bars. And there weren’t many wealthy people. However usually it’s noted on the invitation.

It’s also common to have receptions in fire halls with a sandwich bar. So there’s that. We all loved them and they were the norm.

No.

If it does anything to curtail wedding madness, I'm all for it.

It’s not that uncommon. Personally I think it’s chintzy, but people planning a wedding on a tight budget have to make choices, and it’s not an irrational one.

No. I don’t know such tacky people.

Yes, years ago. It’s not a big deal to me because I’m not a big drinker. The couple didn’t have a lot of money and they wanted to prioritize food, so they had a cash bar. I do think letting people know in advance is the right thing to do, but otherwise it’s not a huge deal. It’s just one night.

You are a guest at a wedding. Unless there are religious reasons, or the bride or groom are AA members, there should be no charge to guests for anything. Full stop.

Yep. Happened to me right after college and my then-boyfriend left and found an ATM. We were also completely caught off-guard. Probably didn't drink as much as we would have back then, so there's that.

I actually have never attended one. I have attended a wine and beer only wedding and even a dry wedding (awful. It was punch in the church basement).

Literal cash? That's both tacky and annoying. "Cash bar" that accepts venmo and card is marginally better.

Has anyone ever gone to a wedding with a cash bar?

We were completely caught off guard by it and my husband had to leave the venue to find an ATM to get money.

It was VERY tacky in my opinion.