Cheating isn't a factor. The income disparity will be.

I also figured out that there has been a slight “reduction” in the biweekly salary, and I suspect it’s going to a different account. I wonder if that affects the settlement as well a it falls under the category dissipation of funds but hard to prove unless the employer is involved..

I am hoping to settle out of court and he does have a reputation to lose..

Sadly no. Narcissists seem to benefit in the divorce process and there is no accountability for lying in court. It was so demoralizing.
50/50 asset split no matter what usually.
Get an AWESOME smart, proactive lawyer to try to protect you as much as possible

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Anonymous wrote:Is your spouse noteworthy and would want to keep the cheating under wraps? Does their employer have a morality clause? Are they military? In the right circumstances, you might be able to use the cheating as leverage in negotiations.

Yes to all except military (but close)

Nope. My spouse was military and cheated on and he was military. Nothing happened to him, she got his retirement, the kids, alimony and child support and the ap managed to get his kids and screw his ex over big time. Eventually Cps gave her the kids.

Well sounds like he was the problem.

How was he the problem? He never cheated. He got deployed for a year but that is military life when they cheated. She abused the kids, she cheated, and much more. He’s a great husband. Two sets of kids lost out on stable homes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your spouse noteworthy and would want to keep the cheating under wraps? Does their employer have a morality clause? Are they military? In the right circumstances, you might be able to use the cheating as leverage in negotiations.

Yes to all except military (but close)

Nope. My spouse was military and cheated on and he was military. Nothing happened to him, she got his retirement, the kids, alimony and child support and the ap managed to get his kids and screw his ex over big time. Eventually Cps gave her the kids.

Well sounds like he was the problem.

Anonymous wrote:That is not how it works. Cheating has no impact on division of marital assets.

That depends on the jurisdiction. And the circumstances. If you file for at-fault (which is very uncommon) and can prove the infidelity (which is hard to do), it *can* affect the division of assets, although this is not common anymore. But it CAN be done. Virginia is one of these states. I know this, because I had enough evidence (collected by my private investigator) that was shared in discovery and her attorney convinced her to accept what I was offering as a settlement, because she knew I'd win if this went to court.

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Anonymous wrote:Is your spouse noteworthy and would want to keep the cheating under wraps? Does their employer have a morality clause? Are they military? In the right circumstances, you might be able to use the cheating as leverage in negotiations.

Yes to all except military (but close)

Nope. My spouse was military and cheated on and he was military. Nothing happened to him, she got his retirement, the kids, alimony and child support and the ap managed to get his kids and screw his ex over big time. Eventually Cps gave her the kids.

Anonymous wrote:Is your spouse noteworthy and would want to keep the cheating under wraps? Does their employer have a morality clause? Are they military? In the right circumstances, you might be able to use the cheating as leverage in negotiations.

Yes to all except military (but close)

Is your spouse noteworthy and would want to keep the cheating under wraps? Does their employer have a morality clause? Are they military? In the right circumstances, you might be able to use the cheating as leverage in negotiations.

Court doesn’t care about cheating. 50/50.

Anonymous wrote:That is not how it works. Cheating has no impact on division of marital assets.

This is asking about settlement, not what’s judge is likely to do (the law).

To answer the OP: it depends entirely on the psychology of the cheater. I am not far enough down this road to speak from personal experience yet but I know of a couple settlements where yes this happened because the cheater wanted to get out quick etc.

The issue many people run into however is that the cheater uses divorce or mediation as simply another form of abuse.

No. Not only did he cheat, he also beat me up. Nobody cared, because that's not how it works.
Get out and move on with your life. If they are the loser, the best thing you can do is leave them behind.

That is not how it works. Cheating has no impact on division of marital assets.

If you divorced due to cheating, were you able to get a better settlement than the regular 50-50 split, especially if your income was less than half of your spouse?