The emotional hangover is almost always due to anger at the core.
If they broke up with me the first feeling that comes to mind is rejection, I’m not good enough etc. but it typically morphed into anger at them for not seeing me the way I thought I deserved it to be seen. If someone moved away for their dream job and we broke up well then it was kind of no one‘s fault but deep down hangover is usually anger that I wasn’t worth them staying in Toledo.

Eventually your brain files away the break up and makes new connections and the anger falls away, this usually happens when you’ve found something else to be passionate about and that’s when your heart opens because your brain is on something new instead of processing anger loops.

In my experience nothing soothe heartbreak better than throwing yourself into something that brings you joy no matter how small.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fastest way is to get under someone else.

Sounds like guy advice.

Female here. This is really the only thing that has ever worked for me.

Find a crush. Meet new people. Kiss people. Truly.

Realizing that I was in love with who they portrayed themself to be and not who they actually were was a game changer for me.

Also, had the best sex of my life with a nerdy lawyer who was a total departure from my normal "type" - opened up a new universe for me

Anonymous wrote:Treat yourself well. When you look better, you feel better. This includes makeup, clothes, going to the gym, etc.

This. Also start thinking about new things, read or take up new interests, change habits associated with the person. Stay busy. Distract yourself when needed but not in a self-destructive way. Take it one day at a time but make some goals for travel, health, career, etc. Treat it as a new beginning because it is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fastest way is to get under someone else.

Sounds like guy advice.

Nope, I’m a woman.

Why mope over some loser when you get be out getting naked with a hottie?

Because presumably what OP misses about their relationship is more than just that part.

DP.

Ok. So OP is asking us to presume what she misses about a relationship we know nothing about and speculate about what would help her?

Sex. I presume sex.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fastest way is to get under someone else.

Sounds like guy advice.

Nope, I’m a woman.

Why mope over some loser when you get be out getting naked with a hottie?

Because presumably what OP misses about their relationship is more than just that part.

OP, can you tell us your story?

Do whatever it takes..

It's tempting to go on OLD but don't do it.

Treat yourself well. When you look better, you feel better. This includes makeup, clothes, going to the gym, etc.

Smash.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fastest way is to get under someone else.

Sounds like guy advice.

Nope, I’m a woman.

Why mope over some loser when you get be out getting naked with a hottie?

Anonymous wrote:Fastest way is to get under someone else.

Sounds like guy advice.

Fastest way is to get under someone else.

Other than time. Did you give yourself time to mope around or did you book an exotic trip somewhere with GFs or family? Did you eat ice cream and watch Netflix for a month? What helped?