Anonymous wrote:I mean yes that’s all pretty rough but I’d win almost any hardship overcoming contest trust me

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

I was born and raised in poverty, joined the army and went to a combat zone for college money, and then got cancer from the burn pits. I don't ask anyone for sympathy and I'm not a victim, but it's complete garbage to declare that my life is easier since I'm white when it's been objectively harder than most.

Anonymous wrote:Aww, so sorry all of those things happened to you OP…..and in such a short period of time. ❤️‍🩹
Hope you are doing better now - - am glad you got rid of that cheating rat of a husband most of all!

Some things I have overcome:

• Being adopted as a newborn.
It was a fully closed, international adoption so very unlikely I will ever learn a thing about my long-lost biological family.

• Terrible upbringing by adoptive parents.
Was sent away to live in group homes, etc. multiple times during my childhood.

• Was a financially struggling working single parent.

• Was a victim of domestic violence in multiple relationships.

• Lost my best friend, the only person who truly mattered to me in the world to a terminal illness a month ago.

**hugs**

I don’t want to write it.

Hi OP, sorry you had to go through so much hardship. Unfortunately everybody has their own, sometimes obvious sometimes more hidden, share of trauma and hardship.
Be kind, everybody you meet is fighting a hard battle

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

Yawn, boring, this is so Year of George Floyd. No one cares. The vast majority aren't rich limousine liberals in Bethesda readinf Robin D'Angelo at book clubs.

Life is hard for almost everyone, end of.

you could've done the literate thing and ended with "its rough all over" but sigh of course not.

There is absolutely no point in this sort of tally unless it's to feel proud of yourself that you are still standing and it really is not a competition- suffering is suffering and resilience is resilience and that is all that really matters. also im so sorry to inform you but a white american kid who got molested is absolutely not luckier than a brown kid who grew up middle class in Thailand in a safe home even if they did have a bucket shower. this sort of USA is nr. one thinking has caused so many of our current day problems.

In the past five years I’ve dealt with my mom dying from cancer at age 60, harassment at work, a 16-year-old friendship ending, and recently finding out that I’m in perimenopause at age 35. I started a new job two weeks ago that is great and I’m relieved to finally have some answers regarding the somewhat alarming symptoms I had been having over the past year or so.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 39 and have gone through similar things in the last 5 years - a cheating and addict xH who blew all our money on god knows what, nearly dying from pregnancy, financial hardship.

The good news is made me into a stronger, better person. I’m independent, I take care of myself, I don’t tolerate BS from anyone (but especially men). Which did lead me to attracting WAY higher quality men, and my current partner is really the most incredible man I’ve ever met in my entire life.

Not that the end goal should be landing a man, but, I have found that the stronger and more independent you are, the better men you attract. Which is helpful after going through a traumatic marriage and divorce.

OP here. I’m glad to hear your life is better now. I can only hope the same for myself.

I’m 39 and have gone through similar things in the last 5 years - a cheating and addict xH who blew all our money on god knows what, nearly dying from pregnancy, financial hardship.

The good news is made me into a stronger, better person. I’m independent, I take care of myself, I don’t tolerate BS from anyone (but especially men). Which did lead me to attracting WAY higher quality men, and my current partner is really the most incredible man I’ve ever met in my entire life.

Not that the end goal should be landing a man, but, I have found that the stronger and more independent you are, the better men you attract. Which is helpful after going through a traumatic marriage and divorce.

I am not going to list my hardships because they are very identifying and I'm a mom of kids who were at schools in Bethesda for at least a decade.

What I will say is OP, hey, you left, you got out of that horrible cycle of unfaithful, unreliable husband.

The next bit is an open page for you to write on as it suits you.

Anonymous wrote:

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

Yawn, boring, this is so Year of George Floyd. No one cares. The vast majority aren't rich limousine liberals in Bethesda readinf Robin D'Angelo at book clubs.

Life is hard for almost everyone, end of.

I mean yes that’s all pretty rough but I’d win almost any hardship overcoming contest trust me

I always have had one big advantage though: Im white and I was born in the USA. That started me off on third base

I'm so sorry.
That's a lot in only five years at just 38.

Not nearly as much as you. Big big hugs!

Aww, so sorry all of those things happened to you OP…..and in such a short period of time. ❤️‍🩹
Hope you are doing better now - - am glad you got rid of that cheating rat of a husband most of all!

Some things I have overcome:

• Being adopted as a newborn.
It was a fully closed, international adoption so very unlikely I will ever learn a thing about my long-lost biological family.

• Terrible upbringing by adoptive parents.
Was sent away to live in group homes, etc. multiple times during my childhood.

• Was a financially struggling working single parent.

• Was a victim of domestic violence in multiple relationships.

• Lost my best friend, the only person who truly mattered to me in the world to a terminal illness a month ago.

What trying times have you experienced in your life so far? What have you overcome and how?

I’m 38 years old. In the past five years:
- I had my husband cheat on me with multiple women including a college girl.
- Endured the Covid pandemic
- Watched my parents struggle with severe financial distress
- Almost died twice due to ectopic pregnancies, one of which caused massive internal bleeding. I now have no fallopean tubes and no baby and the only way to have one is ivf.
- I endured one round of egg retrieval.
- My husband started drinking and checking out of the marriage again.
- I watched helplessly as father got sick and died of end stage colon cancer.
- I transferred an embryo which did not stick while my husband had a meltdown due to failing business and unemployment.
- my husband began cheating on me and walked out on me.
- I moved out and into my own apartment; leaving behind a horrible marriage of 10 years

It has been…brutal but I’m still standing.