Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 10:20     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:Do you or your spouse wear contacts or eyeglasses?

This is not a big deal as others have said. Take your son to look at glasses and have him try a bunch of frames.

If you have a brick and mortar Warby Parker, start there.

And take a chill pill OP.


Yes we wear contacts but not as early as 2nd grade. I know I am in need of a chill pill! DCUM is my freak out place so I don't have to do it in real life as much.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 10:18     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
We like online Jonas Paul, they send a free try on, and have better size options for kids than an adult store like Warby Parker. My son also started wearing glasses in 2nd grade and the only thing the doctor mentioned is outdoor time - kids are getting myopia younger as they spend more time indoors now.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:59     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid started wearing glasses in second grade. NBD. DH and I both wear glasses.

But is this a troll? Because the whole "should I have pushed screens more/emphasized reading less" thing sounds like a troll question. You can't be serious with that, right?


I'm not a troll. My sister and BIL brag that their kids don't have glasses and they watch TV a lot, from a safe distance. Another thing BIL does is keep the house dark. He said they did that growing up and he credits his perfect eyesight to not having his house be well lit. I think the light thing does sound crazy but maybe I pushed reading too much, and looking at a far away TV would have been better. The eye doctor said more and more kids are getting glasses because they are looking close (at screens) instead of far. Doesn't reading count as looking close?


1. your BIL is a jerk
2. Reading BOOKS is not the same as a screen

You need to calm down or your son will pick up on it.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:57     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Do you or your spouse wear contacts or eyeglasses?

This is not a big deal as others have said. Take your son to look at glasses and have him try a bunch of frames.

If you have a brick and mortar Warby Parker, start there.

And take a chill pill OP.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:38     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:My kid started wearing glasses in second grade. NBD. DH and I both wear glasses.

But is this a troll? Because the whole "should I have pushed screens more/emphasized reading less" thing sounds like a troll question. You can't be serious with that, right?


I'm not a troll. My sister and BIL brag that their kids don't have glasses and they watch TV a lot, from a safe distance. Another thing BIL does is keep the house dark. He said they did that growing up and he credits his perfect eyesight to not having his house be well lit. I think the light thing does sound crazy but maybe I pushed reading too much, and looking at a far away TV would have been better. The eye doctor said more and more kids are getting glasses because they are looking close (at screens) instead of far. Doesn't reading count as looking close?
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:35     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We just went in for an eye exam and DS needs glasses! It's only 2nd grade! I feel horribly guilty. We are nearly screen-free and he is constantly reading at home. Did I cause this by pushing reading? Would he have been better off watching TV? He does use iPads, but only in school (K-2nd grade). I do prohibit him from reading in the car, and make sure he turns the lights out for a reasonable bedtime, but he reads a lot.


Regular outdoor time lowers risk of myopia. Reading doesn't increase it, unless you're not getting enough outdoors time because you're reading too much.

But also some kids just need glasses. A lot of it is genetic.


He has been physically active, but from October to April it's mostly indoors. He'll be in soccer, but indoor soccer. Football, but indoor flag. Recess if often outdoors in the winter months. Does that matter? We live in a cold climate.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:34     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
My kid started wearing glasses in second grade. NBD. DH and I both wear glasses.

But is this a troll? Because the whole "should I have pushed screens more/emphasized reading less" thing sounds like a troll question. You can't be serious with that, right?
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:32     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:We just went in for an eye exam and DS needs glasses! It's only 2nd grade! I feel horribly guilty. We are nearly screen-free and he is constantly reading at home. Did I cause this by pushing reading? Would he have been better off watching TV? He does use iPads, but only in school (K-2nd grade). I do prohibit him from reading in the car, and make sure he turns the lights out for a reasonable bedtime, but he reads a lot.


Regular outdoor time lowers risk of myopia. Reading doesn't increase it, unless you're not getting enough outdoors time because you're reading too much.

But also some kids just need glasses. A lot of it is genetic.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:32     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Not your fault. Likely genetic. My athletic brother wore glasses at an early age. No issues. DH lifelong glasses wearer. No surprise that DS needed them in elementary school.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:28     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:Make sure you get cool looking ones so he doesn't become a target.

Kids like glasses these days. My 12 year old pretended he couldn’t see to get them. My 17 year old (different kid) wears glasses with clear lenses. He’s an athlete, too.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:23     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:Make sure you get cool looking ones so he doesn't become a target.


I didn't even think of that
What kind of glasses do elementary boys wear?
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:21     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Make sure you get cool looking ones so he doesn't become a target.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:19     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Anonymous wrote:Um, you didn't cause this at all. Almost everyone wears glasses or contacts.


In 2nd grade though? Is this recent? Maybe I haven't been paying attention, but growing up there was maybe 2 kids in the whole grade who wore glasses at that age.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:18     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
Um, you didn't cause this at all. Almost everyone wears glasses or contacts.
Anonymous
Post 12/03/2025 09:17     Subject: DS8 needs glasses
We just went in for an eye exam and DS needs glasses! It's only 2nd grade! I feel horribly guilty. We are nearly screen-free and he is constantly reading at home. Did I cause this by pushing reading? Would he have been better off watching TV? He does use iPads, but only in school (K-2nd grade). I do prohibit him from reading in the car, and make sure he turns the lights out for a reasonable bedtime, but he reads a lot.