Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 18:43     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
I don’t bring it up but I also don’t divulge the whole application plan when asked. More to protect my kids’ privacy than anything else.

Between the holidays and busy schedules no one is getting together right now anyway and I’m fine with it. Will hear about ED soon and will know where kid stands and then they’ll go from there. Their friends (and then in turn their parents) will know right away. They all talk to each other about it. I asked my kid if they were going to check their ED at school vs waiting until they get home and they said NO I’m checking at school. So yeah, it’ll be their news to share.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 18:43     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Easy response was “not sure, they’re still figuring it out” and talk about something else.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 18:33     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Anonymous wrote:Are any of the other senior parents here treading carefully when talking to other parents of seniors? I don't know why I'm being weird about it, but my worry about my kids' college outcome seems to be contributing to a desire to not hang out with other parents of seniors. I guess I don't feel like talking about college applications or outcomes or the stress of waiting for decisions, etc. so I'm limiting my social interactions. I think I'm mostly concerned about not seeming too interested in where the other seniors are applying, etc. and being that annoying, nosy mom who is digging for info from other parents about who applied where early, etc.

Am I the weird one here or are other parents here also doing the same? I'm not being a hermit or anything, but I typically reach out to other parents for coffee meet-ups, etc. and I realized that I have not been doing much of that.


So sad for you. You'll never see a lot of these people again after graduation. I'm making the most of every opportunity to get together with as many of DC's classmate's parents as I can.

Yes, OP, you're the weird one here. You're way to vested in this for your own good.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 18:31     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Anonymous wrote:OP and others agreeing with her -- this is a you problem. You're competitive and you're projecting.

We raised four kids and never had a single conversation with any of their friends' parents about college when they were in high school. Not once.


Not OP, but I’m just imagining it when other parents ask me where my kid is applying?
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 18:07     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Don't engage in the conversation. Always protect your child's privacy. "I'll let you know where he decides to attend".
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 17:48     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
OP and others agreeing with her -- this is a you problem. You're competitive and you're projecting.

We raised four kids and never had a single conversation with any of their friends' parents about college when they were in high school. Not once.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:25     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Same here. I'm exhausted by it and just don't want to talk about it. I don't even have anything to say right now about it. We're all in the hole so would rather wait until there's something to tell


Well, this entire year may be a weird one because even if there's good news in mid-December, other kids will not be in the same boat.


Having been through it before it will be a weird year all the way through for the parents as well as the kids and their friendships. The less you talk to each other about it the better off you will be.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:21     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Anonymous wrote:Same here. I'm exhausted by it and just don't want to talk about it. I don't even have anything to say right now about it. We're all in the hole so would rather wait until there's something to tell


Well, this entire year may be a weird one because even if there's good news in mid-December, other kids will not be in the same boat.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:19     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Same here. I'm exhausted by it and just don't want to talk about it. I don't even have anything to say right now about it. We're all in the hole so would rather wait until there's something to tell
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:19     Subject: Re:Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
It’s definitely easiest to limit those conversations with other parents. Find a few good fallback phrases that sound like your own voice and when the topic comes up just throw those out there too quickly change the topic to something else in a friendly way
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:17     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
I’m trying real hard not to talk to any movie stars or Kennedys who have kids applying this year. I want to avoid all those Harvard vs. Old Dominion debates that have ruined previous winters.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:14     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
I feel the same way. I basically don’t ask/don’t tell. It’s a little weird, I admit, I just feel like certain parents are so competitive, I just really don’t want them in our business.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:14     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
I have one good friend and that's all they want to talk about. Our conversations now revolve around her DC and where they might apply, their essays, the programs they are considering, etc. It's exhausting and I usually love to chat with parents about college-related topics but this person is OTT
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 16:11     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
I make a point not to mention the topic. I don't mind talking about it if someone else brings it up with me, but I'm otherwise working with the assumption that people may not want to get into it right now.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2025 15:57     Subject: Are any other senior parents avoiding conversations with other senior parents?
Are any of the other senior parents here treading carefully when talking to other parents of seniors? I don't know why I'm being weird about it, but my worry about my kids' college outcome seems to be contributing to a desire to not hang out with other parents of seniors. I guess I don't feel like talking about college applications or outcomes or the stress of waiting for decisions, etc. so I'm limiting my social interactions. I think I'm mostly concerned about not seeming too interested in where the other seniors are applying, etc. and being that annoying, nosy mom who is digging for info from other parents about who applied where early, etc.

Am I the weird one here or are other parents here also doing the same? I'm not being a hermit or anything, but I typically reach out to other parents for coffee meet-ups, etc. and I realized that I have not been doing much of that.