Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:52     Subject: How much weed is too much?
So much righteousness on this forum. I have a kid that has gone from unarguably too much weed use to virtually none…on his own. All of the ones telling you that you are on the road to doom are the ones who were binge drinkers in college 20 years ago.

No kid in college is making smart long-term financial decisions (“buy an eighth and roll them herself”) and it’s so tone deaf to pretend otherwise.

Keep you eye on her. try to talk to her about it. But my once weed-heavy and now less-so kid is doing just fine in college and trending toward being fully employed upon graduation.

Oddly, weed is their alcohol and, strangely, seeming less toxic than it was for us
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:52     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Anonymous wrote:Our daughter has experimented with marijuana products throughout college, and even had some bad experiences. It was always in a party setting with her friends. I know that is pretty typical these days. But we have recently found out that she is now buying at the dispensaries 4-5 times per week. We don’t know what products she is buying, but I am guessing joints. She is mostly doing this with her boyfriend, but she might sometimes be doing it alone. I think it has become something she does to alleviate stress and anxiety. She doesn’t know that we know about this. We just aren’t sure if we should step in. As far as we know, she isn’t doing anything illegal.

Full disclosure, I have an aversion to marijuana. I know it is legal and all. It just scares me and always has. So, I know that I am very biased against it. That’s why I am asking others who are more open to it, maybe did it in college or have kids that do it. Are we at the point where we should intervene? She only has one more semester left, so should we ride it out and hope that it is just a college thing for her?
We are really worried, so any advice or insight would be much appreciated!


Ironically, it increases anxiety and paranoia. I broke up a relationship over constant use. Alcohol is legal but who wants an alcoholic? Bad stuff. And can affect sperm count, worse than cigarettes for lung cancer:
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:50     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Anonymous wrote:Our daughter has experimented with marijuana products throughout college, and even had some bad experiences. It was always in a party setting with her friends. I know that is pretty typical these days. But we have recently found out that she is now buying at the dispensaries 4-5 times per week. We don’t know what products she is buying, but I am guessing joints. She is mostly doing this with her boyfriend, but she might sometimes be doing it alone. I think it has become something she does to alleviate stress and anxiety. She doesn’t know that we know about this. We just aren’t sure if we should step in. As far as we know, she isn’t doing anything illegal.

Full disclosure, I have an aversion to marijuana. I know it is legal and all. It just scares me and always has. So, I know that I am very biased against it. That’s why I am asking others who are more open to it, maybe did it in college or have kids that do it. Are we at the point where we should intervene? She only has one more semester left, so should we ride it out and hope that it is just a college thing for her?
We are really worried, so any advice or insight would be much appreciated!


If this was my daughter, I would ask: 1) how are her grades and overall health? 2) is this legal in the state where she lives?

If her grades or health are declining, do something. If you’re paying for college, you can tell her you saved for ver education, not for her to get high. If her grades and overall health (including mental health) seem fine, I’d leave it alone.

If it is legal where she lives, and above is not an issue, and she’s not robbing a bank or skipping meals to pay for the weed, then it’s none of your business. She’s an adult and not doing anything illegal.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:48     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.
I will talk to her. I’m not sure it will do any good at this point, but this seems to be quite serious.


OP if she were my daughter she would not be going back to school next semester. No way.


100% this. Why are you allowing it, OP?
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:44     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.
I will talk to her. I’m not sure it will do any good at this point, but this seems to be quite serious.


OP if she were my daughter she would not be going back to school next semester. No way.


College campuses destroy more kids these days than ever. They are toxic places.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:41     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.

OP this is what weed does.

People who did weed in college 20+ years ago were doing something different. Today, vapes are small enough to fit in a pocket and can be used all day long. It doesn't have to be social. There isn't a joint-rolling process to slow people down. It's easy to slip into pretty extreme using habits.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:32     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Sorry OP and wishing you the best.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:23     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.
I will talk to her. I’m not sure it will do any good at this point, but this seems to be quite serious.


OP if she were my daughter she would not be going back to school next semester. No way.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:17     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Op here. Yes, her motivation has gone downhill fast. She has trouble completing anything. She has always struggled to complete tasks in a timely manner, but it has gotten worse. Her mood is definitely off. She just looks strung out.
I will talk to her. I’m not sure it will do any good at this point, but this seems to be quite serious.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:15     Subject: Re:How much weed is too much?
Anyone buying pre-rolls 4-5 times a week is a broke addict. If you're smoking that much, and buying from a dispensary, you'd be better served to get an eighth, a grinder and a pack of RAWs and learn to roll your own. But anyone smoking 4-5 times a week is courting a psychological issue worse than the financial issue. Weed is insidious. It doesn't usually slam you down to a rock bottom the way that alcohol and "harder drugs" might. By the time you start thinking you might have a problem, you'll likely have a really hard time stopping. Night sweats, insomnia, months of emotional dysregulating, including mood swings, paranoia, anxiety, rage... Even if she's functioning normally now, this isn't sustainable long-term

That's a LOT of cannabis use, far more than the occasional puff or two at a party. Please talk to your kid and figure out what they're doing. Curiosity and concern will go over a lot better than an intervention, and you don't want to piss them off so they shut you out.

https://marijuana-anonymous.org/the-twelve-questions-of-marijuana-anonymous/
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:06     Subject: Re:How much weed is too much?
Who is paying for this OP? You?
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:02     Subject: How much weed is too much?
As the above poster mentioned, consider her function I ng in school, work, and socially and emotionally Kids do experiment and if her functioning is ok in all these areas, that is reassuring.

At the same time, if she is using cannabis 4-5 times per week or more, that presents a lot more risk for current or future problems. It may be a hard conversation, but I would encourage you to talk with her about this.

I work in substance disorder treatment and unfortunately the negative impacts of cannabis are more prevalent and harmful than people recognize.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 21:01     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Anonymous wrote:Our daughter has experimented with marijuana products throughout college, and even had some bad experiences. It was always in a party setting with her friends. I know that is pretty typical these days. But we have recently found out that she is now buying at the dispensaries 4-5 times per week. We don’t know what products she is buying, but I am guessing joints. She is mostly doing this with her boyfriend, but she might sometimes be doing it alone. I think it has become something she does to alleviate stress and anxiety. She doesn’t know that we know about this. We just aren’t sure if we should step in. As far as we know, she isn’t doing anything illegal.

Full disclosure, I have an aversion to marijuana. I know it is legal and all. It just scares me and always has. So, I know that I am very biased against it. That’s why I am asking others who are more open to it, maybe did it in college or have kids that do it. Are we at the point where we should intervene? She only has one more semester left, so should we ride it out and hope that it is just a college thing for her?
We are really worried, so any advice or insight would be much appreciated!


That is full blown addict behavior there. Even regular pot smokers only visit a shop once or so a week. That's just insane. She will develop mental problems fast.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 20:50     Subject: How much weed is too much?
I’d consider two things when deciding how to proceed: 1) what does her functioning look like overall? Does she have good grades and other evidence of keeping up with responsibilities? 2) what are her post-graduation plans? If her functioning is strong and she has post-grad plans that are less compatible with frequent weed use (e.g. an in-person 9-5 job), there might be less cause for concern about problematic use over time. If it were my DD I’d probably still discuss it with her though. And I’d definitely make sure I wasn’t the one funding this habit.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2025 20:21     Subject: How much weed is too much?
Our daughter has experimented with marijuana products throughout college, and even had some bad experiences. It was always in a party setting with her friends. I know that is pretty typical these days. But we have recently found out that she is now buying at the dispensaries 4-5 times per week. We don’t know what products she is buying, but I am guessing joints. She is mostly doing this with her boyfriend, but she might sometimes be doing it alone. I think it has become something she does to alleviate stress and anxiety. She doesn’t know that we know about this. We just aren’t sure if we should step in. As far as we know, she isn’t doing anything illegal.

Full disclosure, I have an aversion to marijuana. I know it is legal and all. It just scares me and always has. So, I know that I am very biased against it. That’s why I am asking others who are more open to it, maybe did it in college or have kids that do it. Are we at the point where we should intervene? She only has one more semester left, so should we ride it out and hope that it is just a college thing for her?
We are really worried, so any advice or insight would be much appreciated!