No, not dreadful. Mainly because I don't react.

If kid wants to wake up at 3 pm? - I am fine.
If the entire floor is littered with clothes? - I am fine.
If they eat cold TG leftovers for breakfast? - I am fine.

Yes, I have twins. One came home and is their generally happy-go-lucky self.
The second came home and is as argumentative as they were when they left in August. This one just yelled at me for 30 minutes about how cold the house is although the rest of us (4) are all happy and I'm currently in bare feet and a tee shirt.

Thankfully both were out with friends for much of the time they were home.

Ironically kid #1 does not communicate much when at college. Kid #2 calls daily and we have a very close relationship when they're away.

It's all good. However, I'm ready for them to leave and to get our calm back for a few weeks. Both head out later today.

Anonymous wrote:Nope! Same happy, sweet kid.

DP here. Your exclamation mark comes off as insufferable, smug gloating. In case you didn't know.

Happy kid but he’s a junior in college. Our freshman year was tougher because he was basically under the impression that he was on vacation at a full service resort. He doesnt pull the same antics anymore. He will clean up after himself and is more pleasant.

Nope! Same happy, sweet kid.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else have a terrible experience with their college kid coming home for Thanksgiving?? With them starting two or three arguments a day?? I'm ready to take the train, repo her car and withdraw any support of her schooling.

Don’t take it personally. This is normal for some teens. They’re used to freedom and spending copious time with friends, not curfews and family dinners and chores at home

Anonymous wrote:Was it political arguments?

DC came home from Ivy with views that have shifted more to the center.

It’s common F and S year.

I had very honest and hard talks about soiling the best and I could not be their target.

If you don’t want life long problems don’t threaten them with money and support. Get a therapist and work through it.

Was it political arguments?

growing pains

Where I struggle is in wanting to guide my college kids in areas where they need to act, but I also know this will be interpreted as nagging, driving them crazy. I have to literally remind myself that they already know the things that I want to nag them about. It's hard to let go and let them be.

Sometimes, it's a hard adjustment to come back home after your first taste of "adult"-ish life. Try not to sweat it. College doesn't last forever. You don't want your college grad making up excuses not to come home.

Not many arguments because mostly with friends and cousins. It’s about separating from you. Don’t take it too personally.

nope. but my kid was with friends a lot!

Anyone else have a terrible experience with their college kid coming home for Thanksgiving?? With them starting two or three arguments a day?? I'm ready to take the train, repo her car and withdraw any support of her schooling.