Eat whatever breakfast you want whenever you want, and offer to share with those who are awake. Adults who are asleep can feed themselves when they wake up. They don’t need a cooked breakfast, and may not even want it. Lots of people prefer a light breakfast or may choose to skip it altogether.

That being said, when I’m expecting houseguests I like to ask if there’s anything they’d like me to pick up. Even having a preferred beverage can make a big difference, whether it’s coffee, tea, soda, juice, milk (whole, skim, almond, etc.).

Anonymous wrote:Eat with your daughter. He can fend for himself. Why are you worrying about this and not your grown daughter?

Because I enjoy cooking for her and her guests when they visit. (She is 3 years younger than him)

Was just not sure how to handle this situation, politely.

(I personally , would not sleep in for hours as a guest at someone’s house)

I’d offer breakfast. It’s such easy food to make. You can ask in advance what he likes. This is an infrequent visit and he’s your guest.

Sometimes I'll make pancakes but everyone wakes up at a different time so they just help themselves whenever they get up. I can't imagine forcing people to get up early to eat breakfast, or expecting everyone to wait for late risers to eat!

Anonymous wrote:Just tell him "We get up for breakfast at 7am and breakfast is at 7:30."

If he gets up at 11am, then he can have a bowl of cereal and some fruit.

Or ask your daughter if you all should save him a plate. The above is rude and implies he ought to be getting up then too. Nobody wants to do that.

Just tell him "We get up for breakfast at 7am and breakfast is at 7:30."

If he gets up at 11am, then he can have a bowl of cereal and some fruit.

No .he's a grown adult and he can figure it out on his own. If you have make waffles or bacon or something that can be reheated, you can store that for him if you want.

Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s 28 year old SO likes to sleep in. My daughter and I wake up hours earlier.
I would like to cook her breakfast, and eat myself, soon after getting up.

Do I then need to cook breakfast a second time when he wakes up? Or starve for hours waiting for him to rouse?

(Mind you, they both live hours away. This is on their infrequent visits)

You are not his mom or gf, so he makes his own food.

Eat with your daughter. He can fend for himself. Why are you worrying about this and not your grown daughter?

Everyone's on their own for breakfast. My son and I get up late, my daughter and my husband get up early. Sometimes my husband makes a special breakfast for everyone, and whoever gets up late needs to warm it up. But usually everyone is on their own.

If he’s sleeping hours after you both eat it must be almost lunchtime. Offer him coffee and lunch.

Nah, just eat when you get up. It would be a nice gesture to find out what kind of things he likes for breakfast (bagels/muffins/cereal) that you can have for him to prep himself when he wakes up.

No, just leave bagels or cereal around. You might make fresh coffee for him.

I would not cook a second breakfast. I’d stick to normal mealtimes and go about our plans as usual. If he wants to mingle with the family, he needs to make the effort.

My daughter’s 28 year old SO likes to sleep in. My daughter and I wake up hours earlier.
I would like to cook her breakfast, and eat myself, soon after getting up.

Do I then need to cook breakfast a second time when he wakes up? Or starve for hours waiting for him to rouse?

(Mind you, they both live hours away. This is on their infrequent visits)