Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:57
Subject: Re:Dislike DS’s GF
Op here, I did go to university and had a career, but we did have a nanny and as our kids became teens, my husband started traveling for work more so I stayed home.
I guess I titled this wrong, I don’t dislike her, just the future plan and how she isn’t as into a career as my son is. I also think he’s too young right now for marriage. As a girlfriend, my son has no complaints about her though. And as a person, she is decent
I guess I titled this wrong, I don’t dislike her, just the future plan and how she isn’t as into a career as my son is. I also think he’s too young right now for marriage. As a girlfriend, my son has no complaints about her though. And as a person, she is decent
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:54
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My son is 24, our second boy out of four, and our fifth is a girl. He’s been dating a girl who is the same age that he met online almost a year ago and she is a sweet and very attractive young lady, rather introverted, but she doesn’t have any ambition or drive.
She doesn’t have a job and she lives with her parents. She did attend and did graduate from our in state university that’s ranked well (as a commuter) majoring in something art related while living at home. My son graduated in 2023 from CMU with a degree in Computer Science and landed an amazing job later that year and has his own apartment and lives alone. He is a very extroverted, and bright. She spends most of the time hanging out at his house waiting for him to get off work and he has recently told me that she wants to move in with him.
DS has said she doesn’t plan to work but he told me that they want to get married in the future, but, considering her future plans, I’m not sure I want them to get married. Is there anything I can say or do to discourage marriage atleast for now or do I just let DS come to his own senses? How can I tak to my son about this ?
What's the problem, that she doesn't want to wage slave?
Just be sure he gets an air tight pre-nup in his favor and it will all be good.
Ain't nothing to protect! Pre-nups are for people that have assets and not to protect imaginary future assets.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:27
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
He's an adult, he knows who she is. It's definitely not someone I'd want to marry, but she's being honest about herself with him so it's not like he's being duped.
Ultimately speaking against her is very likely to backfire on you.
Ultimately speaking against her is very likely to backfire on you.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:27
Subject: Re:Dislike DS’s GF
What does your spouse say about this?
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:25
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Once he starts paying all her bills he might feel differently but OP, you "disliking" her is rather extreme. You say she's sweet and very attractive young lady (kind of odd you phrase it this way) rather introverted. Ideally you want your son to discover his best match - and that is not something you/or anyone other than your son would know.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:22
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Anonymous wrote:My son is 24, our second boy out of four, and our fifth is a girl. He’s been dating a girl who is the same age that he met online almost a year ago and she is a sweet and very attractive young lady, rather introverted, but she doesn’t have any ambition or drive.
She doesn’t have a job and she lives with her parents. She did attend and did graduate from our in state university that’s ranked well (as a commuter) majoring in something art related while living at home. My son graduated in 2023 from CMU with a degree in Computer Science and landed an amazing job later that year and has his own apartment and lives alone. He is a very extroverted, and bright. She spends most of the time hanging out at his house waiting for him to get off work and he has recently told me that she wants to move in with him.
DS has said she doesn’t plan to work but he told me that they want to get married in the future, but, considering her future plans, I’m not sure I want them to get married. Is there anything I can say or do to discourage marriage atleast for now or do I just let DS come to his own senses? How can I tak to my son about this ?
What's the problem, that she doesn't want to wage slave?
Just be sure he gets an air tight pre-nup in his favor and it will all be good.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:21
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Either you were a SAHM or your 5 kids were raised by daycare/nannies. Sounds like your son either wants a SAHM too or wants his kids raised differently. How is she as a person? How does she treat your son?
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:17
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Anonymous wrote:Did you have a career or job? I'm assuming not since you had 5 kids. Perhaps he wants someone like his Mom to support.
*nods grimly*
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:15
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
You MYOB.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:14
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
what's your career path? were you a SAHM too? if so, why do you expect him to marry someone ambitious?
you say she majored in art. is she pursuing that now? is she creating art? does she ever have shows or sell it?
you say she majored in art. is she pursuing that now? is she creating art? does she ever have shows or sell it?
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:14
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Anonymous wrote:Did you have a career or job? I'm assuming not since you had 5 kids. Perhaps he wants someone like his Mom to support.
Fwiw my cousin that's a scientist has been married to a waitress for 20 years. I'm also a scientist married to a military officer. We're both happily married and it works for us.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:13
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
It’s not your decision. You wouldn’t be telling him anything he doesn’t already know. You’re setting yourself up to be removed from his life if you tell him his gf isn’t good enough for him.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:12
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Looks like he wants your life mom.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:10
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
Did you have a career or job? I'm assuming not since you had 5 kids. Perhaps he wants someone like his Mom to support.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 18:09
Subject: Dislike DS’s GF
My son is 24, our second boy out of four, and our fifth is a girl. He’s been dating a girl who is the same age that he met online almost a year ago and she is a sweet and very attractive young lady, rather introverted, but she doesn’t have any ambition or drive.
She doesn’t have a job and she lives with her parents. She did attend and did graduate from our in state university that’s ranked well (as a commuter) majoring in something art related while living at home. My son graduated in 2023 from CMU with a degree in Computer Science and landed an amazing job later that year and has his own apartment and lives alone. He is a very extroverted, and bright. She spends most of the time hanging out at his house waiting for him to get off work and he has recently told me that she wants to move in with him.
DS has said she doesn’t plan to work but he told me that they want to get married in the future, but, considering her future plans, I’m not sure I want them to get married. Is there anything I can say or do to discourage marriage atleast for now or do I just let DS come to his own senses? How can I tak to my son about this ?
She doesn’t have a job and she lives with her parents. She did attend and did graduate from our in state university that’s ranked well (as a commuter) majoring in something art related while living at home. My son graduated in 2023 from CMU with a degree in Computer Science and landed an amazing job later that year and has his own apartment and lives alone. He is a very extroverted, and bright. She spends most of the time hanging out at his house waiting for him to get off work and he has recently told me that she wants to move in with him.
DS has said she doesn’t plan to work but he told me that they want to get married in the future, but, considering her future plans, I’m not sure I want them to get married. Is there anything I can say or do to discourage marriage atleast for now or do I just let DS come to his own senses? How can I tak to my son about this ?