You say he is nice enough to ensure you orgasm - why aren't you nice enough to ensure he orgasms?

Hugs OP.

Go on carnivore diet and see what happens.
Dr Berry and his wife with same symptoms as you think it can be managed with the diet.
Search them on YouTube.

I would say Thyroid affects sex drive more than Type 2, PCOS or any other medical issues with women.

thyroid issues definitely affect sex drive and there are tons of other hormone issues your body could be facing at this age that you don't know about.

Anonymous wrote:what does hashimotos have to do with this?? unless you have gained a LOT of weight and dont feel attractive or confident in yourself?? It doesn't effect libido, have you had everything else tested like vitamin b. iron etc??

https://thyroidpharmacist.com/articles/low-libido-and-hashimotos/. Lord you are ignorant. could you not google before you post?

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Anonymous wrote:what does hashimotos have to do with this?? unless you have gained a LOT of weight and dont feel attractive or confident in yourself?? It doesn't effect libido, have you had everything else tested like vitamin b. iron etc??

What? Hashimoto's can absolutely affect libido.

yes, it does but OP is also struggling with other medical issues.

Op here. My endocrinologist and OBGYN both mentioned that my thyroid and type 2 are affecting my sex drive a lot. I am 5'3" and about 185 lbs and I know that is a lot of weight but my eating habits haven't changed a lot. I am just standing and working all day, no eating much but weight is not coming down. I do love him but also feel bad for him in this situation. He tries to be nice all day and take me out, buys me flowers, gifts, vacations etc but I don't feel good within myself and sex drive is almost nothing.

Anonymous wrote:what does hashimotos have to do with this?? unless you have gained a LOT of weight and dont feel attractive or confident in yourself?? It doesn't effect libido, have you had everything else tested like vitamin b. iron etc??

A meta-analysis of 20 years of study on the subject found that, yes, thyroid disease affects sexual function:
“Hypothyroid and hyperthyroid women demonstrated impairments in desire, arousal/lubrication, orgasm, satisfaction, and pain during intercourse. Mechanistically, hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism exert effects on circulating sex hormone levels through peripheral and central pathways and can indirectly provoke psychiatric and autonomic dysregulation that can impair sexual function.”

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30057137/

Anonymous wrote:what does hashimotos have to do with this?? unless you have gained a LOT of weight and dont feel attractive or confident in yourself?? It doesn't effect libido, have you had everything else tested like vitamin b. iron etc??

What? Hashimoto's can absolutely affect libido.

what does hashimotos have to do with this?? unless you have gained a LOT of weight and dont feel attractive or confident in yourself?? It doesn't effect libido, have you had everything else tested like vitamin b. iron etc??

You have a lot of excuses. Even though you say you care, your responses indicate selfishness and not caring about him.

Why not divorce him and let him move on romantically with someone else? You and he both would be much happier. You can even be friends. If you are sexless you are essentially friends alreadt. Its the mature thing.

Anonymous wrote:Oral is rarely about sex drive or pleasure for the giver. It is about caring about the pleasure and satisfaction of a partner. Can you do sexual acts that pleasure him even if you don’t have a sex drive?

Op here. I don't have any desire to do that either and he loves oral. I have never been a big fan of it but used to do it and stopped doing at all recently. I struggle with myself if I should I put out or not. I don't reach orgasms either (very rarely) but it wasn't the case when we started dating a few years back. He is nice enough to make sure I use toys and reach orgasm these days but it gets very frustrating when I couldn't and he doesn't say anything but I could see that he is taking it personally.

Oral is rarely about sex drive or pleasure for the giver. It is about caring about the pleasure and satisfaction of a partner. Can you do sexual acts that pleasure him even if you don’t have a sex drive?

I am 43F with Hashimoto issues and my sex drive is completely gone. I don't enjoy or feel any pleasure/desire in doing it but also feel the guilt that DH is asking for it and he is not getting it. He stays very compassionate but I could see that he is frustrated inside. He is very nice and kind and I feel that this could affect my marriage. Anyone gone through this? I have gained some weight too and thyroid number seems to be normal but sex drive has not returned.