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Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

I had a friend like this. Especially the thing where she thought she had had valuable info on every topic. She was the sort of person who read a lot and had shallow knowledge on a lot of topics, but then she'd weigh in with authority even though she really didn't know much. It was frustrating.

We are technically still friends but "grew apart." Sometimes she pops up in my social media feeds and she does it there too. She became especially intolerable when she had a kid because she now posts a lot about parenting as though she's an expert. I'm glad I don't see her anymore because I have a kid a couple years older than hers and this would drive me absolutely insane if I had to listen to it.

Yeah, PP here and the whole speaking like an expert on something she has only a tiny bit of experience with is a big thing with this coworker of mine too. We have projects where management regularly asks for input from the folks who have been doing our job for a long time -- meaning folks who have done it for like 5 years or more -- and she, having done one season of it, is always the first one to pop in with "Well, I have always done x, y, and z with my projects." FFS, you have done this once before ... you are one of the people that management wants advised by the more seasoned people! She is there to be advised, not to do the advising. It's pretty clueless stuff lol. I really do think she knows that she gets some eyerolls but just can't stop herself.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

PP here. I'm not sure she's clueless about it -- I think she just truly can't control herself.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a hardcore introvert, so this describes most people I know. However, I recognize it's me, not them.

Same! I am much more comfortable with silence (or listening to music or a book on headphones) than small talk.

Don't we all know people who talk too much and are too loud? The worst offender I know is widely believed to be on the spectrum. His wife is lovely, though, and I think she's the reason they still have friends!

A lot of people I know do this.

For one it is driven by hearing loss (I can’t hear when you talk so I’ll just talk the whole time so as not to be excluded).

For others it’s anxiety. Talking is a way of self-soothing.

For the third group it’s poor social skills.

It’s exhausting to be around, and I limit my time with all 3 groups!

Anonymous wrote:My MIL talks constantly and only about herself and her (pretty boring) life. Even when she asks a question of someone else, she already has a way to bring it back around to herself and doesn’t even listen to what you answer. I’ve never met anyone else that is this level. I have been married for 20 years and she knows absolutely nothing about me or my husband’s life.

My mom is the same. If she asks "do you have any trips planned?" you can bet its because she wants to brag about her own upcoming trip. When I call her I put the phone on speaker and prop it up while I clean the bathtub or the baseboards and she soliliquies. She doesn't even realize it.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

I had a friend like this. Especially the thing where she thought she had had valuable info on every topic. She was the sort of person who read a lot and had shallow knowledge on a lot of topics, but then she'd weigh in with authority even though she really didn't know much. It was frustrating.

We are technically still friends but "grew apart." Sometimes she pops up in my social media feeds and she does it there too. She became especially intolerable when she had a kid because she now posts a lot about parenting as though she's an expert. I'm glad I don't see her anymore because I have a kid a couple years older than hers and this would drive me absolutely insane if I had to listen to it.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

I don't mind people talking a lot, because I prefer to listen. But if the person talks a lot AND is self-absorbed to the point of never even bothering to ask anything or care, then it gets annoying.

My MIL talks constantly and only about herself and her (pretty boring) life. Even when she asks a question of someone else, she already has a way to bring it back around to herself and doesn’t even listen to what you answer. I’ve never met anyone else that is this level. I have been married for 20 years and she knows absolutely nothing about me or my husband’s life.

One of my friends, a former coworker, talked normally in the office no problem, but out in public, is SO loud that I'm embarrassed.

I have an “acquaintance” who sometimes walks w our group. She hogs 90% of the conversation and is clueless about it. Honey, your life is not that interesting.

I'm a hardcore introvert, so this describes most people I know. However, I recognize it's me, not them.

And loud? I have some lovely friends but I cannot get over nor listen to them go in and on. Do you know someone like this? Exhausting. I feel bad, I always have to cut them off.