Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:49
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Fiction
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:47
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Anonymous wrote:
Ma’am you need to plan your divorce.
Your marriage is over. Leave that man alone.
I wouldn’t divorce him. It’s better to have him die as her spouse.
I would drop the rope op.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:47
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Your excuses are out of touch and wild. Honestly you’re delusional OP
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:44
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Anonymous wrote:OP here. By the way, DD's reaction surprised me. When she understood that Daddy has a serious condition, she said "but you told me that you would be able to pay the mortgage on our house yourself."
I guess she is not as close to him as would be normal. No wonder, since he spends so little time with her.
omg your poor daughter! Why does she know any of this? She is going to have even worse codependency, anxiety, and low self esteem than you do. You need serious therapy and to get her in therapy asap.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:44
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Anonymous wrote:OP here. By the way, DD's reaction surprised me. When she understood that Daddy has a serious condition, she said "but you told me that you would be able to pay the mortgage on our house yourself."
I guess she is not as close to him as would be normal. No wonder, since he spends so little time with her.
WTF is wrong with you? You don't tell your 14 year old about her dad creeping on her tutor, his affairs or that he's dying when it's not true.
You need therapy lady.
I hope you are a troll
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:40
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
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quote=Anonymous]You are modeling so much toxic behavior to your daughter
quote=Anonymous]You are modeling so much toxic behavior to your daughter
Ma’am you need to plan your divorce.
Your marriage is over. Leave that man alone.
You're going to give yourself a heart attack trying to prevent your husband's affairs and prevent his heart attack.
His cheating and his death are out of your control.
Your engergy would be better spent making sure you and your daughter would be financially set after a divorce and divorce him.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:39
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
OP here. By the way, DD's reaction surprised me. When she understood that Daddy has a serious condition, she said "but you told me that you would be able to pay the mortgage on our house yourself."
I guess she is not as close to him as would be normal. No wonder, since he spends so little time with her.
I guess she is not as close to him as would be normal. No wonder, since he spends so little time with her.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:36
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What's the point of being separated if you're carrying on like this?
OP here. There has been way less tension since he moved out to our vacation property. It seemed to be working: convenience for him and financial stability for me and our daughter.
You are lying to yourself.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:36
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Anonymous wrote:You are modeling so much toxic behavior to your daughter
OP here. Why, because I am trying to take care of her father?
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:35
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Anonymous wrote:What's the point of being separated if you're carrying on like this?
OP here. There has been way less tension since he moved out to our vacation property. It seemed to be working: convenience for him and financial stability for me and our daughter.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:34
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
Ma’am you need to plan your divorce.
Your marriage is over. Leave that man alone.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:33
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
You are modeling so much toxic behavior to your daughter
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:32
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
What's the point of being separated if you're carrying on like this?
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:25
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
You need to let go. Drop the rope.
Anonymous
11/11/2025 07:23
Subject: Worried about H because of his imminent heart attack -- he keeps telling me that I am the problem
My H and I are separated, he lives in our vacation property 3 hours away, close to his job. I have not seen him since mid-September.
On Friday he described to me that he had been showing all the classic symptoms of an imminent heart failure, yet he does not believe that he has heart insufficiency. On Sunday our 14 y.o. and I managed to persuade him to see a cardiologist.
His behavior is very hurtful. On one hand he has asked me to manage his care: find an in-network cardiologist, make appointments, etc. Our dynamic has always been that I take care of absolutely everything that is not about his duties on the job. I take care of the insurances, tax returns, maintenance of both homes, pay the bills etc. We have had a joint budget since the month we met 20 years ago, and that has not changed after the separation. Whenever there is a problem, I am the person he calls. I advise him even regarding his job-related negotiations.
On the other hand he keeps telling me that he does not trust me at all, that even talking to me is causing him stress. He does not want to give me a healthcare PoA. He blames me for having thwarted his attempt to start a relationship with a very young woman (35 years his junior) who was simply creeped out.
Last night he finished work at 5. Starting at 5:30 I started texting him asking him to go to a certain emergency room today where a cardiologist whom he trusts will be on call. I called him several times for an hour, he did not respond. I panicked and at shortly before 7 I asked neighbors to check on him. One of them has a key. They went in, and it turned out that he was merely sleeping. He became upset about having been woken up, and told me that I was overreacting, and even if he had heard my calls he probably would not have answered because talking to me stresses him out.
I am very hurt. You might say that he is my ex, why do I care. But he is the father of my daughter. Last night when the neighbors reported at 7 pm that his car is in the garage but he is not responding to the door buzzer, I started crying while telling them to get the key and go in. That is when I noticed that it would be a catastrophic loss in our lives if he died. Not only would my daughter be a half orphan, but it would also be a huge financial setback.
It is very hurtful to try to get the best healthcare for him to keep him alive and healthy, and not only to not get any appreciation in return but being constantly insulted. My sister says that most people would not put up with this humiliating situation. But I am not prepared to let him jeopardize his life just because he is incapable of organizing himself the healthcare he needs.
On Friday he described to me that he had been showing all the classic symptoms of an imminent heart failure, yet he does not believe that he has heart insufficiency. On Sunday our 14 y.o. and I managed to persuade him to see a cardiologist.
His behavior is very hurtful. On one hand he has asked me to manage his care: find an in-network cardiologist, make appointments, etc. Our dynamic has always been that I take care of absolutely everything that is not about his duties on the job. I take care of the insurances, tax returns, maintenance of both homes, pay the bills etc. We have had a joint budget since the month we met 20 years ago, and that has not changed after the separation. Whenever there is a problem, I am the person he calls. I advise him even regarding his job-related negotiations.
On the other hand he keeps telling me that he does not trust me at all, that even talking to me is causing him stress. He does not want to give me a healthcare PoA. He blames me for having thwarted his attempt to start a relationship with a very young woman (35 years his junior) who was simply creeped out.
Last night he finished work at 5. Starting at 5:30 I started texting him asking him to go to a certain emergency room today where a cardiologist whom he trusts will be on call. I called him several times for an hour, he did not respond. I panicked and at shortly before 7 I asked neighbors to check on him. One of them has a key. They went in, and it turned out that he was merely sleeping. He became upset about having been woken up, and told me that I was overreacting, and even if he had heard my calls he probably would not have answered because talking to me stresses him out.
I am very hurt. You might say that he is my ex, why do I care. But he is the father of my daughter. Last night when the neighbors reported at 7 pm that his car is in the garage but he is not responding to the door buzzer, I started crying while telling them to get the key and go in. That is when I noticed that it would be a catastrophic loss in our lives if he died. Not only would my daughter be a half orphan, but it would also be a huge financial setback.
It is very hurtful to try to get the best healthcare for him to keep him alive and healthy, and not only to not get any appreciation in return but being constantly insulted. My sister says that most people would not put up with this humiliating situation. But I am not prepared to let him jeopardize his life just because he is incapable of organizing himself the healthcare he needs.