Listening is definitely not the issue.

I'm not looking for advice from people who don't know the situation. I'm looking for a recommendation.

“self-centered behavior can be changed through a variety of methods, including therapy, practicing empathy and mindfulness, and addressing underlying cognitive biases like the fundamental attribution error and self-serving bias. Individuals can challenge their thinking, set realistic goals, and reframe situations by considering other perspectives. “

— AI.


I would start with listening. That is really hard one to master !! Listening to understand (and interpret), etc etc.

I am not being rude. I have read/skimmed a couple amazing books on listening Yeah dont ask the titles

I also learned a lot on line about self behavior change. It was very useful

Tips like first thoughts ..: then language (you have to read to know what this is about

it sort of breaks it all down for you. i am pro doing work first

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not go.

Go solo first . Get friends or a hobby first
You basically have to change a lot first
You probably know what areas to focus on already.

I actually don't.

You don’t know what to work on?! Then buy a book on listening. You are probably not taking it in for some reason.

Well Marriage Center. There are several counselors, we saw Mary. It was helpful.

You have to be willing to change, but obviously you don't have to change before seeing a counselor. Helping you figure out a direction is what the counselor is for.

Anonymous wrote:Do not go.

Go solo first . Get friends or a hobby first
You basically have to change a lot first
You probably know what areas to focus on already.

I actually don't.

Do not go.

Go solo first . Get friends or a hobby first
You basically have to change a lot first
You probably know what areas to focus on already.

Forgive me if this isn't an appropriate post for this forum, but it's safe to say I'm a little desperate -- can anyone recommend a good marriage counselor?