Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:41
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is on 8th grade and she’s constantly texting and FaceTiming friends. They’ve gotten to the point where they essentially plan their own social lives and don’t really involve their parents Briley they need a ride somewhere.
However, she has a couple friends who don’t have phones. I think their parents are the type who are waiting for high school. Anyway, I don’t think they realize how much their kids are being left out. Not just of the group chats and socializing that takes place online but in organizing get togethers outside of school. They have to involve their moms and get their moms to text other moms in order to arrange meet ups outside of school like we’re still arranging playdates. It’s awkward. My daughter went to a party over the weekend and one poor girl was left out because the party thrower didn’t want to text this girl’s mom about it. I felt bad hearing the story.
Anyway, I think 7th and 8th graders should have phones. They need it for socializing.
Parents who don't give their middle schoolers phones don't need or want your sympathy. If you only knew how much *they* look down on *you* !
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:38
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Anonymous wrote:It's a good way to keep the kids out of the "fast" crowd until at least high school.
At our school, it’s not just the fast crowd. It’s pretty much every group.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:30
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Mine has a phone, it’s just attached to the wall. They make their own plans. They have active and happy social lives.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:29
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
I like how the post has a conclusion. Good job, OP!
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:28
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Did an 11 year old write this?
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:24
Subject: Re:I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Her friends without phones will have measurably better mental health outcomes.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:17
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Anonymous wrote:Completely agree with you OP
They also just don't get the memes and stuff and it's awkward. They're sometimes referred to as "YouTube shorts kids" because they see the same tiktoks/reels like seven months later on the only platform they're allowed on.
….. by who? Parents?? Or loser middle school kids who think watching TikTok will make them have a better life.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:09
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
It's a good way to keep the kids out of the "fast" crowd until at least high school.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:06
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
I understand what you see because I've seen the same but, disagree about feeling sorry for them. My son socializes and plans his weekend outings with friends and they coordinate other things. He is also on the phone riding to school when he could be studying or talking. He ends up involved in whatever dramas happened and the 8th grade parties are a big step up from birthdays, I feel like drinking will be on the table by next year. My kid isnt even a phone addict but I wish he was less connected and nerdier. He would agree with you though op. I do think we can't mold our kids much as they will be who they are but holding off on a phone is better for them, I'm sure its even worse for girls in terms of mental health.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 15:03
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Anonymous wrote:Couldn’t they have just invited the girl by talking to her at school?
This. That's just a jerk move, and i'm not anti phone.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 14:58
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Couldn’t they have just invited the girl by talking to her at school?
Anonymous
11/09/2025 14:58
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Anything you need to tell yourself to make yourself feel better, OP.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 14:55
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Completely agree with you OP
They also just don't get the memes and stuff and it's awkward. They're sometimes referred to as "YouTube shorts kids" because they see the same tiktoks/reels like seven months later on the only platform they're allowed on.
They also just don't get the memes and stuff and it's awkward. They're sometimes referred to as "YouTube shorts kids" because they see the same tiktoks/reels like seven months later on the only platform they're allowed on.
Anonymous
11/09/2025 14:10
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
Thanks Briley
Anonymous
11/09/2025 14:08
Subject: I feel sorry for the tweens without phones
My daughter is on 8th grade and she’s constantly texting and FaceTiming friends. They’ve gotten to the point where they essentially plan their own social lives and don’t really involve their parents Briley they need a ride somewhere.
However, she has a couple friends who don’t have phones. I think their parents are the type who are waiting for high school. Anyway, I don’t think they realize how much their kids are being left out. Not just of the group chats and socializing that takes place online but in organizing get togethers outside of school. They have to involve their moms and get their moms to text other moms in order to arrange meet ups outside of school like we’re still arranging playdates. It’s awkward. My daughter went to a party over the weekend and one poor girl was left out because the party thrower didn’t want to text this girl’s mom about it. I felt bad hearing the story.
Anyway, I think 7th and 8th graders should have phones. They need it for socializing.
However, she has a couple friends who don’t have phones. I think their parents are the type who are waiting for high school. Anyway, I don’t think they realize how much their kids are being left out. Not just of the group chats and socializing that takes place online but in organizing get togethers outside of school. They have to involve their moms and get their moms to text other moms in order to arrange meet ups outside of school like we’re still arranging playdates. It’s awkward. My daughter went to a party over the weekend and one poor girl was left out because the party thrower didn’t want to text this girl’s mom about it. I felt bad hearing the story.
Anyway, I think 7th and 8th graders should have phones. They need it for socializing.