Anonymous wrote:We both know we dated other people before we got together. No need for details beyond "I have been tested recently and don't have std's."

+1 We never talked about it when we were dating and maybe some talk about exes has come up in the context of funny stories or vacation planning (you went to this city already? when? oh, okay), but not in a "tell me about your sex life with so and so, were they better/worse than me, how many times, what positions??!" kind of way. Especially once you're married, this level of interrogating your partner's past relationships looks like spoiling for a fight to me, from either the husband or wife.

If OP's question is more about whether people brag about their own ONS in the past by sharing them with their spouse, I think that's strange in a different way. Red flags all around!

DCUM wives: girls who have sex for fun and because they want to when they’re young and single are gross

DCUM husbands: why won’t my wife have sex with me

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but marriage material doesn't do that

Well, every single one of my HS friend group and college friend group is not only married, but each also had one night stands. A couple of them have had abortions. That must shock you grandma, I know!

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but marriage material doesn't do that

I promise fun girls who like sex have no problem finding a husband.

I have never had a one night stand. I can't imagine having sex with a random stranger.

Sorry but marriage material doesn't do that

We both know we dated other people before we got together. No need for details beyond "I have been tested recently and don't have std's."

No, I didn’t do that kind of thing, and it was a dealbreaker for me in looking for a relationship too.

Ewww disgusting, why would you do that? Do you just have no self respect?

Relationships. Yes. Hookups, no.

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Anonymous wrote:What does that even mean? That I did at all? What they looked like? Where I was? What exactly happened?

More like "Yeah, I met some guy at a some bar in Destin, Fl on Spring Break in '99 and screwed him in the dunes. Can't remember his name but I think he went to Auburn."

I would never tell him that level of detail because, why would he care?

There were so many, I can't even remember dates or when or whatever. People have sex.

I've had hookups, he's had hookups. Who cares? I don't expect him to tell me about his ONS or who gave him the best BJs or whatever. On the list of important things in a partner, that doesn't even make the top 100.

Anonymous wrote:What does that even mean? That I did at all? What they looked like? Where I was? What exactly happened?

More like "Yeah, I met some guy at a some bar in Destin, Fl on Spring Break in '99 and screwed him in the dunes. Can't remember his name but I think he went to Auburn."

What does that even mean? That I did at all? What they looked like? Where I was? What exactly happened?

The other thread got me wondering. If you had one night stands in college/ your 20s before marriage, do you husbands know about them?

I'm talking about truly one night stands in that you were at a bar or on spring break, met some rando, screwed them, and never saw them again.