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Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

why? is this the sort of partner you want? why?

Yes, this is the kind of partner I want so that we are better matched and no one feels cheated out of intimacy. I have spent many years with someone on the opposite end of the spectrum and I am not making that mistake again.

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

Careful what you wish for. You're unlikely to find a truly asexual man, but there are many closet cases, porn addicts, pedophiles, and such who will behave asexually towards you because they have little to no sexual interest in a real-life adult woman. Of course, you'll find out their disgusting proclivities only much later.

Be very careful to find out if whoever you end up with is truly asexual or merely asexual towards you. I learned the hard way with the freakshow I'm in the process of divorcing.

Sex a couple times a month is not asexual. That's pretty normal for a couple in their forties.

Anonymous wrote:I can set you up with my xH. He won’t want sex with you, but he will spend hours a day watching porn.

Yours too? Or did we marry the same idiot?

Pathetic gooners...

My DH fits this category. Sadly, I do not. I’m guessing there are more guys like him than you would think. Too bad we can’t predict what we’re gonna be like in 20 years when we get married. I would’ve picked someone that I was a better match with.

Thing is, I don’t think he would admit it. He probably thinks he’s a lot more sexual than he is. Or maybe it’s me, and if he were to be in a new relationship, he would become higher drive again.

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

That's very average for that age group.

Anonymous wrote:Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?

why? is this the sort of partner you want? why?

Just say on the apps that sex isn't important to you and that you are looking for a man with a low libido to match your own. You can say you are still fine with occasional sex but don't want any pressure.

Be very clear and you will get men who feel the same.

Go on the apps and be crystal-clear about your expectations. 95% of men will move on and you'll be left with the types you seek.

You need gay male friends.

Like this (just don’t overdo it).

Thank you for your honesty.

I met one online on Hinge. After 2 months of dating he kept delaying sex and when it happened he just said “we can abstain after”. He was all around amazing companion and at times I miss him. But living sexless would be miserable to me
If you are upfront about not wanting sex right away and waiting for couple months -you’ll meet likely minded men with low libido

Anonymous wrote:I can set you up with my xH. He won’t want sex with you, but he will spend hours a day watching porn.

Ha! Thanks. I did not mean loser asexual men who are addicted to porn. Just ones where sex is not as important to them.

I can set you up with my xH. He won’t want sex with you, but he will spend hours a day watching porn.

Are there single men in their 40s and 50s who are not as into sex? Meaning, then enjoy it every once in a while (couple times a month) but not all the time? If so, how does one find these types of men?