18 months to pee and poop while awake. Used a diaper at night JIC till 4 years.

Anonymous wrote:Some kids really aren't ready until they're a bit older.

My oldest DD potty trained at around 2.5 with zero issues. I tried potty training my second DD at 2.5, and it was a complete disaster. I stopped and waiting until she was just over 3, and she potty trained with zero issues, very quickly, almost no accidents.

We used the Oh Crap method, which is great, but I think it also puts too much pressure to potty train early and fear mongers parents that if their kids aren't trained by 3, they'll never get it. This isn't true. Some kids really do just need to develop a bit more before they're ready.

Op here- thank you , we were gifted the oh crap book by someone in the group. Spent a whole week off at start of fall and didn't get past the naked phase and she was becoming incredible irritated and resistant, so I had to stop. I will give it a try again, it seems lots find this method works

I have two boys. One was a. It over 3 and the other was 3.5.

My kid trained right around her 4th birthday. We started training at 2.5, maybe a little before. It was a frustrating process, but it's actually how I learned how she likes to do things. She doesn't have any developmental delays but we definitely worried at the time she did. But she's just someone who needs time to acclimate to a big change, and cannot be pressured/forced in the meantime (oh crap was a total failure for us, that actually pulled us way off track and probably set us back 6-12 months because she hated it so much). Once I understood that, I approach things in a more hands off way, where I give her info and options and then just kind of leave her alone until she's ready.

But I remember feeling judged by other parents when I had a 3 yr old in diapers. I think mostly it was in my head but that maybe a few parents were genuinely judgmental about it. In the long run it doesn't matter because even if your kid trains easily at 20 months or whatever, you WILL be humbled by some other parenting task at some point. That's just how it goes. So it doesn't last, and also you learn not to be bothered by the smug parents.

12 months old I started.

Oldest - 22 months
2nd - 2.5
Third - 3, overnight diaper til 4
Fourth - 4 for pee, 4.5 for poop (developmentally delayed)

Some kids really aren't ready until they're a bit older.

My oldest DD potty trained at around 2.5 with zero issues. I tried potty training my second DD at 2.5, and it was a complete disaster. I stopped and waiting until she was just over 3, and she potty trained with zero issues, very quickly, almost no accidents.

We used the Oh Crap method, which is great, but I think it also puts too much pressure to potty train early and fear mongers parents that if their kids aren't trained by 3, they'll never get it. This isn't true. Some kids really do just need to develop a bit more before they're ready.

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Anonymous wrote:What comments from your group of friends whose kids are already potty trained would you not find condescending?

My kids all trained around 3.

Op here - it's the way it is said as if I'm doing something wrong, but I am really trying and just feel a bit defeated with it.

It’s somewhat child dependent and somewhat you dependent, and in my experience it’s harder when it’s your first if your child doesn’t immediately take to it.

We potty trained my oldest around 25 months, my middle child around 32 months, and my youngest around 24 months. My youngest was by far the easiest, but I had more bandwidth while training her than I did my older two and really had a good sense of all of the pitfalls of doing or not doing certain things after having potty trained two older children.

I would recommend googling the oh crap method of buying the book. The biggest thing is really setting aside at least a weekend and ideally a three day weekend and then the following weekend and anytime at home during the week to reinforce going to bathroom on the toilet. So no underwear and you’re hanging around the house. The goal is to get your child understanding pee and poop sedations and then as part of that, using a toilet to go to the bathroom. A small travel toilet and little travel bags also help a lot with reinforcement outside the home/on the go. There is usually some regression depending on circumstances, but keep pushing forward. A lot of it is your bandwidth to deal with the situation because it’s not easy or fun. It can be a good bonding opportunity though. On those initial weekends I tried to stay home at least one day with my youngest while my husband took the older kids and we read books and colored and just kind of hung out. Would not recommend tv during these days since kids get so wrapped up that they don’t feel the poop and pee sensations.

Anonymous wrote:What comments from your group of friends whose kids are already potty trained would you not find condescending?

My kids all trained around 3.

Op here - it's the way it is said as if I'm doing something wrong, but I am really trying and just feel a bit defeated with it.

About a month before starting PreK-3, where being potty trained was a requirement 🤷‍♀️

What comments from your group of friends whose kids are already potty trained would you not find condescending?

My kids all trained around 3.

18 mo but it's never too late

It's so kid dependent and parent dependent. My oldest trained around 2.5 or a smidge earlier. She's very rule oriented and has been dry through the night by that point and just needed to get the connection between the feeling of having to pee and wetness. So we're home for a bit with training underwear and sat on the potty after meals etc. She hated being wet. For outings we took the little suitcase potty and used it by the car or inside grownup bathrooms. Trained for both things at the same time. She was diaper free by 2.5.
Second kid kind of trained herself with no effort on our part. We always had little potties hanging out everywhere and around 2 she would just sit when I went to the bathroom and one day she said she didn't want diapers and just went forth.
Closer to 3 it should take less time but it had to be their idea. I would make it fun, do a special treat only on the potty etc.

30 months for us. She was ready and it was easy.

My parenting group mostly has kids who are already fully trained. My daughter, who will be 3 in February, tried potty training last month but wasn’t successful, so I’ve paused and gone back to diapers until the new year. However, I’ve noticed some condescending comments from the group like, “Don’t worry, I’m sure she’ll get it soon,” and it’s making me feel like she’s really behind or late to start.

Is she really too late to train? Should I seek help or try again? Or do I still have time to pause and wait? When did you all manage to fully potty train your kids?