Anonymous
Post 11/03/2025 05:47     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:Technically, it’s okay to leaver after Communion. The Mass ends after the meal. It’s not socially acceptable, and I believe the current stance of the Church is you should wait for dismissal at least, if not the full recessional hymn. My guess is people are trying to beat the traffic by leaving before the recessional ends. Not what I do, but agree with PP it’s nothing to get upset over.


The Mass ends with the — get this — dismissal, not “after the [sic] ‘meal’.”

Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 22:35     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:I always felt like you just couldn’t go in front of the priest unless you had a good reason (feel sick, fussy toddler, a conflict that would have meant you otherwise couldn’t attend Mass, etc.).

If people are flooding out that’s rude but I really haven’t seen that in decades. It was more common in the 80s. I feel like it foul do need to leave early it’s better to go to the back area after communion.


Agree with this. Very common in the 80s. Especially Saturday 5:30 mass.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 21:19     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
I know people with mobility issues who leave early to be able to go slower and not be hurried.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:52     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At the end of Mass but before the priest and procession get out of the back of the Church, isn't it rude for people to leave? So weird to see seemingly nice devout people, of all ages, do this every Sunday. Is waiting another literally 90 seconds going to change your life? I don't understand it. I get not wanting to wait for the entire last song to finish, but at least respect the priest enough until he gets to the last pew, right?


Does the priest no longer say "Ita, Missa est" or "Go, the mass is ended". That used to be the signal that it was OK to leave.




He does, or some version of that. This is the dismissal.


Actual dismissal is when the procession reaches the last pew. And I think 90+ % of church goers know that to be true because only <10% of the rude people leave before that.


Agree in practice that’s when people should leave. But technically actual dismal happens before the recessional. It’s splitting hairs, though.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:39     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
I always felt like you just couldn’t go in front of the priest unless you had a good reason (feel sick, fussy toddler, a conflict that would have meant you otherwise couldn’t attend Mass, etc.).

If people are flooding out that’s rude but I really haven’t seen that in decades. It was more common in the 80s. I feel like it foul do need to leave early it’s better to go to the back area after communion.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:29     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:Maybe they have somewhere to go


At 8:50 am on the Sunday. No they don't. And either way, it's only 90 seconds.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:27     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At the end of Mass but before the priest and procession get out of the back of the Church, isn't it rude for people to leave? So weird to see seemingly nice devout people, of all ages, do this every Sunday. Is waiting another literally 90 seconds going to change your life? I don't understand it. I get not wanting to wait for the entire last song to finish, but at least respect the priest enough until he gets to the last pew, right?


Does the priest no longer say "Ita, Missa est" or "Go, the mass is ended". That used to be the signal that it was OK to leave.




He does, or some version of that. This is the dismissal.


Actual dismissal is when the procession reaches the last pew. And I think 90+ % of church goers know that to be true because only <10% of the rude people leave before that.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:25     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At the end of Mass but before the priest and procession get out of the back of the Church, isn't it rude for people to leave? So weird to see seemingly nice devout people, of all ages, do this every Sunday. Is waiting another literally 90 seconds going to change your life? I don't understand it. I get not wanting to wait for the entire last song to finish, but at least respect the priest enough until he gets to the last pew, right?


Does the priest no longer say "Ita, Missa est" or "Go, the mass is ended". That used to be the signal that it was OK to leave.



Our priest says "Mass has ended" from the altar area but that doesn't mean in the hyper literal sense, does it? Obviously he says it up there because it's not like he's going to wait until he gets to the back pew to say, turn around and yell mass has ended. Making noise, cutting in front of the procession, and running to the doors just seems so uncouth. And for such an insignificant sum of time. Just... relax. It's 90 seconds.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:08     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At the end of Mass but before the priest and procession get out of the back of the Church, isn't it rude for people to leave? So weird to see seemingly nice devout people, of all ages, do this every Sunday. Is waiting another literally 90 seconds going to change your life? I don't understand it. I get not wanting to wait for the entire last song to finish, but at least respect the priest enough until he gets to the last pew, right?


Does the priest no longer say "Ita, Missa est" or "Go, the mass is ended". That used to be the signal that it was OK to leave.




He does, or some version of that. This is the dismissal.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:06     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Anonymous wrote:At the end of Mass but before the priest and procession get out of the back of the Church, isn't it rude for people to leave? So weird to see seemingly nice devout people, of all ages, do this every Sunday. Is waiting another literally 90 seconds going to change your life? I don't understand it. I get not wanting to wait for the entire last song to finish, but at least respect the priest enough until he gets to the last pew, right?


Does the priest no longer say "Ita, Missa est" or "Go, the mass is ended". That used to be the signal that it was OK to leave.

Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:04     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Technically, it’s okay to leaver after Communion. The Mass ends after the meal. It’s not socially acceptable, and I believe the current stance of the Church is you should wait for dismissal at least, if not the full recessional hymn. My guess is people are trying to beat the traffic by leaving before the recessional ends. Not what I do, but agree with PP it’s nothing to get upset over.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 19:56     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
They don’t want to deal with the parking lot rush.

Yes, i think it’s exceptionally rude.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 19:53     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Maybe you should just be thankful they attended the actual mass, OP. Yes, it's rude, but these days families are incredibly busy. I'd give them a pass.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 19:52     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
Maybe they have somewhere to go
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 19:51     Subject: Question about the end of Catholic Mass
At the end of Mass but before the priest and procession get out of the back of the Church, isn't it rude for people to leave? So weird to see seemingly nice devout people, of all ages, do this every Sunday. Is waiting another literally 90 seconds going to change your life? I don't understand it. I get not wanting to wait for the entire last song to finish, but at least respect the priest enough until he gets to the last pew, right?