Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 23:24     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

Speaking as a teacher (and parent) at a top private in NYC, I aver that home-baked goods will be appreciated, as will tasty store-bought treats. Books are nice. Everything else is risky, or at best “meh.” But, sincerely, it’s the thought that counts.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 23:10     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

Nothing. It’s awkward and cringe.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 21:57     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

Anonymous wrote:Paying money or gifting a credit card/gift card is gauche for a recommendation.

A verbal or written "thank you" is great and appropriate.

At graduation, when your DC is leaving, they can gift any of their teachers anything they want . But giving money directly following a rec letter is in poor taste


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Disagree. That’s like saying gifting a teacher a TAW or holiday gift is inappropriate. It’s rude to wait 8 months after someone does something to then send a thank you (gift)…8 months after the thank you note.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 21:52     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

Paying money or gifting a credit card/gift card is gauche for a recommendation.

A verbal or written "thank you" is great and appropriate.

At graduation, when your DC is leaving, they can gift any of their teachers anything they want . But giving money directly following a rec letter is in poor taste
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 21:31     Subject: Re:Thank you notes/gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Teachers don’t want food, mugs, supplies, anything with your kid’s school name on it, etc.

A gift card to somewhere useful (Amazon or Target).


This feels awkward, like paying them for the recommendation even though it’s small, but I’d like to do something DC’s teachers would enjoy. How much is acceptable here?


How so? It’s given after it is written.

$20-$25 is the right amount.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:40     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

Is there a ridonc limit to how much $ or gift card amount they can receive?
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:32     Subject: Re:Thank you notes/gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Teachers don’t want food, mugs, supplies, anything with your kid’s school name on it, etc.

A gift card to somewhere useful (Amazon or Target).


This feels awkward, like paying them for the recommendation even though it’s small, but I’d like to do something DC’s teachers would enjoy. How much is acceptable here?


$20 or $25. It's a token.


That's not a token.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:27     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

I’d be thrilled to get a verbal thank you.

Most students don’t acknowledge the recommendation letters. The last communication I get from most students is the request itself. After that? Nothing.

I am excited when a student swings by my classroom door just to say “thanks”.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:26     Subject: Re:Thank you notes/gifts

Anonymous wrote:Teachers don’t want food, mugs, supplies, anything with your kid’s school name on it, etc.

A gift card to somewhere useful (Amazon or Target).


Speak for yourself. I love it when students give me home-made cookies or a mug from the college they will be attending or literally anything
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:21     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

Last year, along with thank you notes, my kid bought books in the teacher's subject that she thought they would enjoy. A recent well-reviewed political/history book and a philosophical science book that she had enjoyed reading.

Who knows if the teachers ever have time for pleasure reading, but i think they were thoughtful gifts that didn't feel like payments.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:18     Subject: Re:Thank you notes/gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Teachers don’t want food, mugs, supplies, anything with your kid’s school name on it, etc.

A gift card to somewhere useful (Amazon or Target).


This feels awkward, like paying them for the recommendation even though it’s small, but I’d like to do something DC’s teachers would enjoy. How much is acceptable here?


$20 or $25. It's a token.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 20:16     Subject: Re:Thank you notes/gifts

Anonymous wrote:Teachers don’t want food, mugs, supplies, anything with your kid’s school name on it, etc.

A gift card to somewhere useful (Amazon or Target).


This feels awkward, like paying them for the recommendation even though it’s small, but I’d like to do something DC’s teachers would enjoy. How much is acceptable here?
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 19:48     Subject: Re:Thank you notes/gifts

Teachers don’t want food, mugs, supplies, anything with your kid’s school name on it, etc.

A gift card to somewhere useful (Amazon or Target).
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 19:37     Subject: Re:Thank you notes/gifts

DD wrote a nice thank you attached to a container of homemade cookies.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2025 19:35     Subject: Thank you notes/gifts

DC will write a note of course but we'd also ideally like to do a small gift as thanks for writing recommendation letters etc. What would be the most pleasant to receive? Home baked cookies? A small gift card from Starbucks?