Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 16:14     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
We’ve both stayed in excellent physical shape. And I’m not averse to some nip n’ tuck. I got a mommy makeover at 45 and a lower bleph at 50.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 16:12     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Anonymous wrote:You don't look as old to each other as you do to others.
I am stunned when I see a photo of DH. So much older than the man I photographed!


I've always heard that this is the benefit of a very long relationship. Your spouse is the only one on earth who can still see the decades younger version of you.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 16:00     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Yes, attraction also ages up. Especially as your kids get to be in their late teens and 20s (except for creepy old guys I guess).
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 15:30     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
I don’t think it’s easy tbh and my dh is in good shape. Yes, there’s love, but it’s not quite the same thing.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 15:08     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Good question. I don’t. DH has gained weight and doesn’t put effort into his appearance other than regular haircuts. It’s sad.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 15:06     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
I think you generally click like you did when you were 25. It's one of the good things about marriage.

But if you divorce and go on to new partners, now you are really seeing a 50 year old body. And you didn't know them when they were 25. So that's different. There's no long term context. I can see why a lot of divorced men and women go young as they move on.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:59     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Anonymous wrote:We’re both in better physical shape than when we got married, which helps. But I do think what I’m attracted to has changed with age. I was looking at a video the other day of some kid (25 yo) taking his shirt off and it just didn’t do anything for me. Not sure which direction the casualty flows, but I have become more attracted to older men as my DH has aged.


Same - I think I also respect how hard it is to stay in shape as you age and I respect it more than a young person being in shape.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:57     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
We’re both in better physical shape than when we got married, which helps. But I do think what I’m attracted to has changed with age. I was looking at a video the other day of some kid (25 yo) taking his shirt off and it just didn’t do anything for me. Not sure which direction the casualty flows, but I have become more attracted to older men as my DH has aged.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:54     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Anonymous wrote:ExH never shifted… still chasing 20 yr olds. He’s 50.
No. He’s just a gross old man
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:53     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
You just choose to see them as they were 20 years ago.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:50     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
You don't look as old to each other as you do to others.
I am stunned when I see a photo of DH. So much older than the man I photographed!
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:47     Subject: Re:How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Yes, you realize that you're both aging and that in their eyes you're getting just as old. Honestly, I feel so much more comfortable with my body and who I am at this stage in my life (47F) that I don't think someone younger would appreciate it no matter how good looking they were. I also love my DH very much and it isn't just about sex or the way we look any more.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:44     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Anonymous wrote:ExH never shifted… still chasing 20 yr olds. He’s 50.


20 year olds? Does he catch any? Thats a big gap.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:40     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
ExH never shifted… still chasing 20 yr olds. He’s 50.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 14:26     Subject: How do you stay sexually attracted to your partner as they age?
Does your view of what’s attractive just shift as you age? Do you look in the mirror and recognize that you’re in the same boat?