Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 13:20     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Anonymous wrote:I am going through a very contested divorce in fairfax county where my husband has come up with a fake post-nup agreement. I've never seen it, let alone signed it. We had a hearing in Oct which has been continued for Jan (his lawyer was sick); lots of evidence including handwriting experts, IT forensics, alibi witnesses etc. We have a strong case and have lots of evidence that this is a fake document. After Jan, we have a child custody hearing in Feb. Since separation, kids have lived with me in Arlington (moved here post separation) from Mclean/Vienna area. Husband sold our marital home behind my back last December when the kids and myself were abroad visiting my family. Kids are with my on weekdays and go to Dad Friday evening-Sunday morning. I want to keep this schedule and he has never asked for more time, kids have adjusted well. Both kids attended schools in Arlington.

He is asking for 50/50. Is he going to get it? He will have to come from Vienna every day for drop offs/pick up during rush hours. I have a fulltime nanny so for me its not been an issue; plus my mother lives with me. How can I get him to settle outside of court? He has a bulldog attorney who loves to litigate and forces me to bleed money....I'm so tired and want this litigation to just end and settle.

The way you can get him to settle out of court is to provide him with the money he wants. Do you want to do that?
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 13:17     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Anonymous wrote:I am going through a very contested divorce in fairfax county where my husband has come up with a fake post-nup agreement. I've never seen it, let alone signed it. We had a hearing in Oct which has been continued for Jan (his lawyer was sick); lots of evidence including handwriting experts, IT forensics, alibi witnesses etc. We have a strong case and have lots of evidence that this is a fake document. After Jan, we have a child custody hearing in Feb. Since separation, kids have lived with me in Arlington (moved here post separation) from Mclean/Vienna area. Husband sold our marital home behind my back last December when the kids and myself were abroad visiting my family. Kids are with my on weekdays and go to Dad Friday evening-Sunday morning. I want to keep this schedule and he has never asked for more time, kids have adjusted well. Both kids attended schools in Arlington.

He is asking for 50/50. Is he going to get it? He will have to come from Vienna every day for drop offs/pick up during rush hours. I have a fulltime nanny so for me its not been an issue; plus my mother lives with me. How can I get him to settle outside of court? He has a bulldog attorney who loves to litigate and forces me to bleed money....I'm so tired and want this litigation to just end and settle.


50/50 is standard/default - what is your argument against it as it relates to the kids? I don't know that him being a scumbag to you is going to be enough.

I think you need to play the long game here. I'm not sure fighting over 50/50 is part of that unless your attorney thinks you have the upper hand on that front. Seems like it just gives him an opening to demand a concession on another front. From the little bit you told us I'd focus my energy at this point on getting the best financial deal for you and for the kids' future (education) and getting the money locked down.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 12:53     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Anonymous wrote:Can you explain that? If he paid for it, is it separate property? Is it only monetary contributions? What about money spent on renovations, furniture and everything poured into making it a "home". is only the equity usually divided?


Do you have an attorney? Because they should be addressing all of these questions as well as advising you on what documentation you need to get together.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 12:16     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Hope you have money to burn. That STXH isn’t playing round with you ..

Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:57     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Anonymous wrote:Can you explain that? If he paid for it, is it separate property? Is it only monetary contributions? What about money spent on renovations, furniture and everything poured into making it a "home". is only the equity usually divided?


All of those things are factors and it sounds like he wants to fight, so the best advice you will get on here is to have a good attorney.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:55     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Hope college is funded and paid for.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:21     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
You can pay child support to help him with the school commute.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:20     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Can you explain that? If he paid for it, is it separate property? Is it only monetary contributions? What about money spent on renovations, furniture and everything poured into making it a "home". is only the equity usually divided?
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:16     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Anonymous wrote:I was not on the deed, house was in his name only but purchased during our marriage, so still a marital asset.


Depends on how it was acquired.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:15     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Get your kid's college money locked down by agreement.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:15     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Anonymous wrote:I was not on the deed, house was in his name only but purchased during our marriage, so still a marital asset.


If you have a good attorney, you'll be okay. Sounds like he's in it to win it, and you need to be as well.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:14     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
Anonymous wrote:I am going through a very contested divorce in fairfax county where my husband has come up with a fake post-nup agreement. I've never seen it, let alone signed it. We had a hearing in Oct which has been continued for Jan (his lawyer was sick); lots of evidence including handwriting experts, IT forensics, alibi witnesses etc. We have a strong case and have lots of evidence that this is a fake document. After Jan, we have a child custody hearing in Feb. Since separation, kids have lived with me in Arlington (moved here post separation) from Mclean/Vienna area. Husband sold our marital home behind my back last December when the kids and myself were abroad visiting my family. Kids are with my on weekdays and go to Dad Friday evening-Sunday morning. I want to keep this schedule and he has never asked for more time, kids have adjusted well. Both kids attended schools in Arlington.

He is asking for 50/50. Is he going to get it? He will have to come from Vienna every day for drop offs/pick up during rush hours. I have a fulltime nanny so for me its not been an issue; plus my mother lives with me. How can I get him to settle outside of court? He has a bulldog attorney who loves to litigate and forces me to bleed money....I'm so tired and want this litigation to just end and settle.


The default is 50/50, but why does he want it? It sounds like he's using more custody for leverage. However, could you wrap your head around 50/50 and let him figure out how to parent on his time so you don't get pushed into making a bad settlement on other issues? Even if he gets 50/50 to reduce child support, he probably won't use it all, based on your current situation. If you can prove the fake document, it will make the judge mad. That will certainly affect decision making on other issues if they go in thinking he's a fraud.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:13     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
I was not on the deed, house was in his name only but purchased during our marriage, so still a marital asset.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:10     Subject: Re:Contested divorce - fake post nup
How was he able to sell your home without you?

Most of these questions can only be answered by your attorney, not by randoms on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2025 11:08     Subject: Contested divorce - fake post nup
I am going through a very contested divorce in fairfax county where my husband has come up with a fake post-nup agreement. I've never seen it, let alone signed it. We had a hearing in Oct which has been continued for Jan (his lawyer was sick); lots of evidence including handwriting experts, IT forensics, alibi witnesses etc. We have a strong case and have lots of evidence that this is a fake document. After Jan, we have a child custody hearing in Feb. Since separation, kids have lived with me in Arlington (moved here post separation) from Mclean/Vienna area. Husband sold our marital home behind my back last December when the kids and myself were abroad visiting my family. Kids are with my on weekdays and go to Dad Friday evening-Sunday morning. I want to keep this schedule and he has never asked for more time, kids have adjusted well. Both kids attended schools in Arlington.

He is asking for 50/50. Is he going to get it? He will have to come from Vienna every day for drop offs/pick up during rush hours. I have a fulltime nanny so for me its not been an issue; plus my mother lives with me. How can I get him to settle outside of court? He has a bulldog attorney who loves to litigate and forces me to bleed money....I'm so tired and want this litigation to just end and settle.