You can’t assure her she is safe because you can’t guarantee that.
You can talk to her about ways to avoid fights and confrontations. You can talk to her about knowing where the exits are, you can talk about staying with friends if concerned.
Focus on the practical things she can do daily. Don’t say things that aren’t true though.

Does your DD have a group of tight knit friends? I can assure you that if anything like that happened to anyone in my DD’s friend network, any other one who was there would swoop in immediately to render assistance in any way they could. A girl might get her wig pulled off, but she wouldn’t go through it alone.

Anonymous wrote:That did NOT happen at BCC today, I’m sure of it.

It did. My bcc student saw it at the homecoming pep rally.

Anonymous wrote:That did NOT happen at BCC today, I’m sure of it.

Yes, yes it did. My kid told me about this well before this parent posted here.

Anonymous wrote:Why would you assure her that won't happen? That's not something you can be sure of.

I got in a a fight in HS. I looked out the window and a girl sitting next to me said "What are YOU looking at?" I said nothing, and she said, "So you think I'm nothing?" and then sucker punched me in the hallway after the class was over. People pick fights for no reason sometimes - whether they're amped up about something, or just have a screw loose.

Just go over with your DD the steps to take IF her wig is snatched. Maybe just like always having an emergency tampon she wants to carry an emergency scarf or hat if it's about keeping her scalp covered. If it's religious point out it wouldn't be HER sin but the sin of the person who yanked off her wig.

Sigh. You're so foolish. High school is anxiety-provoking as it is, and you never want to make it worse as a parent. Also, you want to educate kids on correct risk assessment. There is a FAR HIGHER likelihood that fights will be picked between people who already know each other, than complete strangers, your experience notwithstanding.

OP does not need to say that this will never happen to her child. She needs to say the risk of this happening is so low that her DD does not need to worry about it.

Seriously. Have some common sense.

Why would you assure her that won't happen? That's not something you can be sure of.

I got in a a fight in HS. I looked out the window and a girl sitting next to me said "What are YOU looking at?" I said nothing, and she said, "So you think I'm nothing?" and then sucker punched me in the hallway after the class was over. People pick fights for no reason sometimes - whether they're amped up about something, or just have a screw loose.

Just go over with your DD the steps to take IF her wig is snatched. Maybe just like always having an emergency tampon she wants to carry an emergency scarf or hat if it's about keeping her scalp covered. If it's religious point out it wouldn't be HER sin but the sin of the person who yanked off her wig.

16? She should be mature enough to calculate risk better, OP. The fight was between two people who knew each other. There is no risk to your daughter.

My daughter is 15, and didn't go to the pep rally. She went to the media center to relax with friends. Yours is welcome to join!

Also, why does BCC disrupt the school day with so many entirely useless pep rallies? My older kids attended Walter Johnson and they either didn't have them at all, or very few. That school is more academic than BCC... BCC doesn't have their priorities right.

OP the girls knew each other this has nothing to od with your kid.

Here's the letter, which was sent immediately after the incident. I think the interim principal's done a great job of communicating in a timely manner when things have come up this year, including medical emergencies, etc.

BCC Letter to Community 10/10/25

Good Morning B-CC High School Families,


During today’s pep rally today, two students engaged in a physical altercation. Administration and security responded immediately and de-escalated the situation. Several students were seen filming the fight with their phones. The school will be taking appropriate disciplinary action based on the MCPS Student Code of Conduct.


I ask that you remind your children that fighting is not only explicitly prohibited but also unacceptable as a way to resolve conflict. We have a licensed school therapist as well as conflict resolution support available at B-CC. Additionally, filming fights is an inappropriate use of electronics according to the MCPS Code of Conduct.


Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions.

Thank you,

Kevin Yates

Acting Principal

B-CC High School

Anonymous wrote:That did NOT happen at BCC today, I’m sure of it.

NP. This did occur at B-CC today. There was a community letter about the fight and my B-CC student said it involved two girls and one pulled the other one's wig. I asked him if that's what started the fight or if it was pulled during the fight and he said he didn't know. I don't think OP's DD needs to worry about it, though. It sounds like the girls new each other - not a random assault on someone wearing a wig.

Anonymous wrote:That did NOT happen at BCC today, I’m sure of it.

How do you know?

OP, this is an assault and I can understand daughter’s anxiety. Is she worried about being in a fight or the humiliation of someone pulling her wig off?
I think I would call the school and let them know if this happens to your daughter you will be calling the police filing a report, and pressing charges. Maybe the school can be proactive and stop this from happening in the first place.

First, your daughter should love herself with and without the wig.

Second, she's right to be concerned about being attacked at school. But the wig isn't the issue.

That did NOT happen at BCC today, I’m sure of it.

That's what tends to happen if you get in a fight wearing a wig. The only thing you can do is avoid getting on fights.

DD 16 goes to B-CC. Today at school there was a fight, and a girl had her wig pulled off. DD wears a wig. She’s said that she’s a bit worried that this might happen to her as well. How do I comfort her and assure her that she’s safe? (I know that this sounds INSANE but if your child goes to B-CC, they’ll confirm it’s true!)