This is the repercussion of his actions.

He needs to reap what he has sown.
Such is life.

Years ago, I was cheated on & had the same feelings that you did.
We ended up breaking up despite having two children.

I just am unable to stay w/someone who would cheat on me….I do not have the capability at all.

I cannot take the fall due to no fault of my own.

Integrity matters a lot to me and I firmly believe that trust is the foundation from which any solid relationship is built upon.

When that trust shatters I believe it is impossible to move forward from that.

To those that can and do >> I commend you.

I wish I could do it.

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me and I recommend therapy for yourself and with your boyfriend. Mine cheated, I left him, and a few months later we reconciled. We did couples counseling after we got back together and I continued the individual therapy I started after the split. There were lots of tough moments for a decent stretch but we grew a lot and are in a wonderful place now. It’ll only work if both of you are committed to each other and the healing process but you need a guide.

She didn’t cheat. He’s the one who needs individual therapy.

What steps has he taken to address the cheating? Has he gone to individual counseling? Shown remorse? Answered all your questions truthfully? Been transparent with devices and whereabouts? Or have you just rug swept and are trying to pretend it’s all okay?
It is very hard to regain trust after cheating. Get therapy for yourself and ask whether you’re better off staying or leaving.

He's mad because you didn't immediately give him a way to escape the consequences of his actions. Man baby who has learned nothing.

Do you even want to be with him? If so, you guys should try counseling as it is unfair for the solution to his cheating just be that you forget about it. If not, there is no reason for you to stay.

He yells at you and argues when you don’t f*** him. He only cares about himself.

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me and I recommend therapy for yourself and with your boyfriend. Mine cheated, I left him, and a few months later we reconciled. We did couples counseling after we got back together and I continued the individual therapy I started after the split. There were lots of tough moments for a decent stretch but we grew a lot and are in a wonderful place now. It’ll only work if both of you are committed to each other and the healing process but you need a guide.

Nope.

Girl Divorce.
He’s a cheater and liar
You won’t ever be able to move on or past that.

I would leave him. Once they cheat it can never be the same. You will always have doubts. Who wants to live with that?

He cheated - you should divorce. There's no reason to think you need to forgive or need to try to make this work

This happened to me and I recommend therapy for yourself and with your boyfriend. Mine cheated, I left him, and a few months later we reconciled. We did couples counseling after we got back together and I continued the individual therapy I started after the split. There were lots of tough moments for a decent stretch but we grew a lot and are in a wonderful place now. It’ll only work if both of you are committed to each other and the healing process but you need a guide.

Anonymous wrote:You should get divorced.
What's the point in living like this

You understandably don't trust him
But you also don't want to take steps to trust him again.
You want to be upset not communicate and have fights?
What's the point?
And don't say kids because from fist hand experience your kids don't need to grow up with this drama

Have to agree with this. It takes a lot to forgive in this situation, and part of that is be willing to just trust him and not do what you're doing. Maybe give it one last attempt and try couples counseling. Otherwise, I think it's best for everyone if you all split

You should get divorced.
What's the point in living like this

You understandably don't trust him
But you also don't want to take steps to trust him again.
You want to be upset not communicate and have fights?
What's the point?
And don't say kids because from fist hand experience your kids don't need to grow up with this drama

Was this one time lapse of judgment cheating or more than once? Both are bad but if it happened more than once I don’t know if I could forgive that- maybe you can’t either.

He needs therapy. Did he have any after discovery? He needs to understand how healing works and fully comprehend and feel what you’re going through. He sounds like a d***.

DH cheated on me with an ex-girlfriend. I found out a year ago and we tried to work things out. From time to time there are instances where I wonder if he is faithful. I usually say nothing. The other day I asked him if he’s been faithful and he said yes. I realized after asking that it was pointless because no matter what he said I would have doubts. I learned from the first time around that he was capable of just lying to my face.

I dropped it and moved on after he said he had been being faithful. Later that day he wanted to have sex and I didn’t want to. I was in my head about the cheating. He could tell and got upset. He was saying I’m not giving him an out because i didn’t want to talk about what is making me feel suspicious so he could disprove it.

I told him what was going on with me was between me and me and I didn’t want to talk about it.

Am I in the wrong? I’m upset because he is yelling and being angry when I just want to drop it and deal with any doubts in solitude.