Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 20:36     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I can’t distance myself because it’s at work.
I’m way too old for this nonsense.
Please help me make my brain stop caring about this person. Like enjoying the validation/attention etc.

I’m so disgusted with myself seriously. I remember having a crush years ago and I was able to distance myself and it went away.
This time I can’t though.
How do I make it stop?


Sleep with them and it will likely stop soon enough. It's likely physical infatuation.


Yeah... that's not what the other posters meant.


What does that have to do with anything? Are you on drugs?
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 20:34     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I can’t distance myself because it’s at work.
I’m way too old for this nonsense.
Please help me make my brain stop caring about this person. Like enjoying the validation/attention etc.

I’m so disgusted with myself seriously. I remember having a crush years ago and I was able to distance myself and it went away.
This time I can’t though.
How do I make it stop?


Sleep with them and it will likely stop soon enough. It's likely physical infatuation.


Yeah... that's not what the other posters meant.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 20:17     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:
I can’t distance myself because it’s at work.
I’m way too old for this nonsense.
Please help me make my brain stop caring about this person. Like enjoying the validation/attention etc.

I’m so disgusted with myself seriously. I remember having a crush years ago and I was able to distance myself and it went away.
This time I can’t though.
How do I make it stop?


Sleep with them and it will likely stop soon enough. It's likely physical infatuation.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 19:16     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Are you married?

The only times I felt that all consuming response to a crush was when my marriage was in the rocks and my husband was being cruel. It’s tiny glimmer of hope and it’s something to latch onto when you’re drowning. Just a thought.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:49     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.
I forgot to add an important thing I think?

I tend to crush on someone who is very kind.
Does this mean I have low self esteem?


No. Crushes are normal. Most people get them. You act like you’ve committed some great sin. Stop it, that’s way too navel-gazing. The reason it’s consuming you is that you’re catastrophizing something entirely minor. If you switch your mindset to understanding that this is normal and happens from time to time… it won’t take up as much space in your brain.


Thank you. But for as long as I work here it will be like this…? Should I just accept it u mean?


Yes, of course accept it. You will get used to it. And for God's sakes, stop taking yourself so seriously! I bet this mindset is causing a host of other problems.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:47     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Seek Therapy
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:46     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
It’s a thought, let it pass without judging yourself.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:40     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
I just used a meditation thing I learned. When I found my mind wandering from sitting lightly on my out breath, I would silently say "thinking" to myself to break the thought stream.
Maybe you can try "nope not doing this" or just "no" when you start the feels and fantasy and obsession. See if it does anything.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:29     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.
I forgot to add an important thing I think?

I tend to crush on someone who is very kind.
Does this mean I have low self esteem?


No. Crushes are normal. Most people get them. You act like you’ve committed some great sin. Stop it, that’s way too navel-gazing. The reason it’s consuming you is that you’re catastrophizing something entirely minor. If you switch your mindset to understanding that this is normal and happens from time to time… it won’t take up as much space in your brain.


Thank you. But for as long as I work here it will be like this…? Should I just accept it u mean?
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:25     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:I’m the OP.
I forgot to add an important thing I think?

I tend to crush on someone who is very kind.
Does this mean I have low self esteem?


No. Crushes are normal. Most people get them. You act like you’ve committed some great sin. Stop it, that’s way too navel-gazing. The reason it’s consuming you is that you’re catastrophizing something entirely minor. If you switch your mindset to understanding that this is normal and happens from time to time… it won’t take up as much space in your brain.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:10     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
I’m the OP.
I forgot to add an important thing I think?

I tend to crush on someone who is very kind.
Does this mean I have low self esteem?
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:10     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Enjoy it? That's what I always do. Crushes are healthy. Stop fighting it and you'll get your work done.

But if it’s limerence, it will consume your every waking hour. Sounds like that might be what is going on with OP.


But fighting it will just prolong the issue.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:10     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Anonymous wrote:Enjoy it? That's what I always do. Crushes are healthy. Stop fighting it and you'll get your work done.

But if it’s limerence, it will consume your every waking hour. Sounds like that might be what is going on with OP.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:07     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain
Enjoy it? That's what I always do. Crushes are healthy. Stop fighting it and you'll get your work done.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2025 18:06     Subject: Crush is ruining my brain

I can’t distance myself because it’s at work.
I’m way too old for this nonsense.
Please help me make my brain stop caring about this person. Like enjoying the validation/attention etc.

I’m so disgusted with myself seriously. I remember having a crush years ago and I was able to distance myself and it went away.
This time I can’t though.
How do I make it stop?