Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone actually read/listen to what the girl said?

She added, "From the beginning, the doctors told me it’s a donation. If you’re going to donate a dollar to St. Jude or somewhere else, you’re not going to call to say, ‘Hey, what are you doing with my dollar?’ It’s a donation and it’s something nice that I was able to do. I am grateful that I am alive, and I can say that I have saved a life. We trauma-bonded, which is beautiful, but also it can get rocky and tricky. People grow, relationships change."

Yeah... that's what the OP expresses

Uh, no... the OP is weird.. . its said " and wouldn't you want to use your clout to help the friend be as successful as possible?" Weird.

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone actually read/listen to what the girl said?

She added, "From the beginning, the doctors told me it’s a donation. If you’re going to donate a dollar to St. Jude or somewhere else, you’re not going to call to say, ‘Hey, what are you doing with my dollar?’ It’s a donation and it’s something nice that I was able to do. I am grateful that I am alive, and I can say that I have saved a life. We trauma-bonded, which is beautiful, but also it can get rocky and tricky. People grow, relationships change."

Yeah... that's what the OP expresses

Anonymous wrote:Having donated for a family member. It's a gift, it's gone, I did it for me because I'm a good person and I expect nothing.

It's a weird place to be and there is a psychology behind it that is hard to explain to others.

My son was asked to donate something as well (odd I know) he was a match and he said, I can in 6 months but not right now. You would have thought he had wished the person dead. He actually did not donate because it became so out of control. He was young so I was dealing with the person and the nurse and they were incredibly rude.

You don't have a right to other's bodies, and you don't owe anybody anything when you have a lifesaving surgery. You don't send a birthday gift to the surgeon.

This comment makes no sense. Plenty of people do keep in touch with the surgeons who saved their life-- and anyway, that's a doctor doing their job, not a person who had no involvement in the situation making a huge personal sacrifice.

Yes, the whole point of this thread is that it's great to have the mature attitude Francia has.

But if you're a human being, it's going to annoy you that the friend you donated an organ to is smoking. It just is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone actually read/listen to what the girl said?

She added, "From the beginning, the doctors told me it’s a donation. If you’re going to donate a dollar to St. Jude or somewhere else, you’re not going to call to say, ‘Hey, what are you doing with my dollar?’ It’s a donation and it’s something nice that I was able to do. I am grateful that I am alive, and I can say that I have saved a life. We trauma-bonded, which is beautiful, but also it can get rocky and tricky. People grow, relationships change."

This. ^^^

Very classy response. And very true.

Anonymous wrote:So sad!😞

She comes across great in this video! I hope she continues to do well. She's got a great head on her shoulders.

Anonymous wrote:Did anyone actually read/listen to what the girl said?

She added, "From the beginning, the doctors told me it’s a donation. If you’re going to donate a dollar to St. Jude or somewhere else, you’re not going to call to say, ‘Hey, what are you doing with my dollar?’ It’s a donation and it’s something nice that I was able to do. I am grateful that I am alive, and I can say that I have saved a life. We trauma-bonded, which is beautiful, but also it can get rocky and tricky. People grow, relationships change."

This. ^^^

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having donated for a family member. It's a gift, it's gone, I did it for me because I'm a good person and I expect nothing.

It's a weird place to be and there is a psychology behind it that is hard to explain to others.

My son was asked to donate something as well (odd I know) he was a match and he said, I can in 6 months but not right now. You would have thought he had wished the person dead. He actually did not donate because it became so out of control. He was young so I was dealing with the person and the nurse and they were incredibly rude.

You don't have a right to other's bodies, and you don't owe anybody anything when you have a lifesaving surgery. You don't send a birthday gift to the surgeon.

Family is not the same as a friend.

True, families is harder because you have to see them all the time even though they treat you like shit.

Did anyone actually read/listen to what the girl said?

She added, "From the beginning, the doctors told me it’s a donation. If you’re going to donate a dollar to St. Jude or somewhere else, you’re not going to call to say, ‘Hey, what are you doing with my dollar?’ It’s a donation and it’s something nice that I was able to do. I am grateful that I am alive, and I can say that I have saved a life. We trauma-bonded, which is beautiful, but also it can get rocky and tricky. People grow, relationships change."

So sad!😞

Anonymous wrote:She’s a better person than me. If I donated a kidney to a friend, I would expect them to be a very good friend to me in the future. Not indebted to me or responsible to me or anything outlandish, but I would expect them to make an effort to be my friend, stay in touch, invite me to their wedding. And I’d expect them not to vape / abuse their body!!!

That says more about you (not on a good way) than the recipient.

People grow apart. It doesn't matter what connected them.

Anonymous wrote:Having donated for a family member. It's a gift, it's gone, I did it for me because I'm a good person and I expect nothing.

It's a weird place to be and there is a psychology behind it that is hard to explain to others.

My son was asked to donate something as well (odd I know) he was a match and he said, I can in 6 months but not right now. You would have thought he had wished the person dead. He actually did not donate because it became so out of control. He was young so I was dealing with the person and the nurse and they were incredibly rude.

You don't have a right to other's bodies, and you don't owe anybody anything when you have a lifesaving surgery. You don't send a birthday gift to the surgeon.

Family is not the same as a friend.

Having donated for a family member. It's a gift, it's gone, I did it for me because I'm a good person and I expect nothing.

It's a weird place to be and there is a psychology behind it that is hard to explain to others.

My son was asked to donate something as well (odd I know) he was a match and he said, I can in 6 months but not right now. You would have thought he had wished the person dead. He actually did not donate because it became so out of control. He was young so I was dealing with the person and the nurse and they were incredibly rude.

You don't have a right to other's bodies, and you don't owe anybody anything when you have a lifesaving surgery. You don't send a birthday gift to the surgeon.

Anonymous wrote:She’s a better person than me. If I donated a kidney to a friend, I would expect them to be a very good friend to me in the future. Not indebted to me or responsible to me or anything outlandish, but I would expect them to make an effort to be my friend, stay in touch, invite me to their wedding. And I’d expect them not to vape / abuse their body!!!

This, 100%. Selena is a spoiled selfish brat.

She’s a better person than me. If I donated a kidney to a friend, I would expect them to be a very good friend to me in the future. Not indebted to me or responsible to me or anything outlandish, but I would expect them to make an effort to be my friend, stay in touch, invite me to their wedding. And I’d expect them not to vape / abuse their body!!!

Francia comes off classy in this article IMHO
https://ew.com/francia-raisa-addresses-selena-gomez-feud-rumors-after-alleged-wedding-snub-11826822

She seems to have the attitude that she was able to save SG's life, and SG's living a great life, and that's wonderful, and Francia's not necessarily owed anything beyond that. Pretty mature. I remember when she was supposedly mad that SG said she had no friends in the industry aside from Taylor Swift. I mean, if I gave someone a kidney, I'd be pretty mad too. And now she seems to be trying to let that mentality go.

It all makes me a little sus of Selena. Like, we all have ups and downs with friends, sure-- but if someone gave you a kidney, wouldn't you want to do everything you can to maintain a strong relationship, and wouldn't you feel like that was kind of your responsibility, and wouldn't you want to use your clout to help the friend be as successful as possible?