Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 18:26     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Anonymous wrote:Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.


Why? It's not confidential information. Weddings are public.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 18:22     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Anonymous wrote:Destination wedding shouldn’t Save the Date - just skip straight to invitations. You know you’re having the wedding so why delay the notice? Invite and have a reply date far enough out (because most folks have to plan) and then if there is room, you can backfill with more folks who tend to be more spontaneous

B lists are disgustingly tacky.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 18:21     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Why would you tell others that you received a STD when you know they didn’t?

If they haven’t received an i cite it’s none of their business what the details are. You’d be a complete ass to tell them anything.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 17:59     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Destination wedding shouldn’t Save the Date - just skip straight to invitations. You know you’re having the wedding so why delay the notice? Invite and have a reply date far enough out (because most folks have to plan) and then if there is room, you can backfill with more folks who tend to be more spontaneous
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 17:51     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Another continent? As soon as possible. If one knows others are getting them and they haven't, then they should not feel obligated in any way to save the date or attend.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 17:31     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Tell whoever sent you the save the date that you are getting questions from people and it's awkward.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 17:28     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Why are they asking you? Are the MOB or MOG?
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 17:09     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the question. Save the dates already went out to the people you want to attend and you're looking to figure out when it will be "Too late" to send them out to the people you don't want to attend? How wildly immature.


We received a save the date.

There are many other people who did not receive one but they are probably getting an invitation.

This is a June wedding in Europe.

So these friends and family are asking US details. Ultimately, they may or may not be invited. Everyone knows this couple is engaged.


It's not your place to answer.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 17:00     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

If you haven't received a save the date when others did maybe you are not invited. Or maybe they need more notice than you do for passports, etc.?
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 16:43     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the question. Save the dates already went out to the people you want to attend and you're looking to figure out when it will be "Too late" to send them out to the people you don't want to attend? How wildly immature.


We received a save the date.

There are many other people who did not receive one but they are probably getting an invitation.

This is a June wedding in Europe.

So these friends and family are asking US details. Ultimately, they may or may not be invited. Everyone knows this couple is engaged.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 16:19     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

As soon as you know the date, I’d socialize it with the people you REALLY want to come. The earlier you let people know, the better your turnout will be.

So I’d say 6+ months at least.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 16:16     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

I think my DD sent them 6 months in advance, maybe a little longer. I've generally received them about that far in advance as well. We are going to a wedding next month and the hotel reservations needed to be made before the formal invites went out.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 16:13     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

I'd need 6 months notice to coordinate time off with work, flights, if I can bring my kids or need childcare, etc
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 15:42     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

I don't understand the question. Save the dates already went out to the people you want to attend and you're looking to figure out when it will be "Too late" to send them out to the people you don't want to attend? How wildly immature.
Anonymous
Post 10/07/2025 15:37     Subject: When to send save the date for destination wedding

How much notice do you think one should give to someone for a destination wedding in a different continent?

Our family member is getting married next year and not wanting to invite the entire family. Some people have received a save the date but most friends and family have not.