Anonymous wrote:Was it vaccines? IVF? Religion?

I think it’s very rude to go into someone’s house and insult them. That puts you in a position where all you can do is ask them to leave—which is also rude.

It’s really hard to say if you overreacted without knowing what happened. It’s hard to imagine something non-political that would elicit such a strong response on either side.

Yes, it is one of those things.

Anonymous wrote:You DID attack them.

Yes, but only after being provoked repeatedly.

But any way, what should I do now? I’m still not exactly happy with this person for the things they said.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are always in the wrong for losing your temper.

I get that, but I couldn’t exactly leave. I was in my own home, and they kept poking the bear even as they gathered their shoes and belongings to leave.

You could have disengaged or engaged calmly without becoming aggressive.

Was it vaccines? IVF? Religion?

I think it’s very rude to go into someone’s house and insult them. That puts you in a position where all you can do is ask them to leave—which is also rude.

It’s really hard to say if you overreacted without knowing what happened. It’s hard to imagine something non-political that would elicit such a strong response on either side.

Anonymous wrote:If you “got aggressive,” you are wrong here.

Verbally aggressive, fwiw

You DID attack them.

Anonymous wrote:You are always in the wrong for losing your temper.

I get that, but I couldn’t exactly leave. I was in my own home, and they kept poking the bear even as they gathered their shoes and belongings to leave.

If you “got aggressive,” you are wrong here.

Anonymous wrote:You are always in the wrong for losing your temper.

Correct.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anyone should be trying to provoke you on purpose, but I'm struggling to think of something that isn't overtly political that would be that upsetting. Was it worth it? Could you have just rolled your eyes and walked away?

It involves something related to my child. I truly did try to ignore it, but they kept challenging me in a hostile way. Once I realized they were likely trying to get a rise out of me, I snapped and figured I should give them what they wanted.

You are always in the wrong for losing your temper.

I don't think anyone should be trying to provoke you on purpose, but I'm struggling to think of something that isn't overtly political that would be that upsetting. Was it worth it? Could you have just rolled your eyes and walked away?

Anonymous wrote:Like the litter post, are these AI generated?

OP here. I’m a real person!

Like the litter post, are these AI generated?

I’m hoping for some outside perspective here.
Someone in my life was over at my house this weekend. While visiting, they brought up a very polarizing, hot-button topic, one that affects me personally and emotionally. They know this. And they also know (or should know) how I feel about it. They lean the opposite direction, and instead of letting it be, they kept pushing.
(Just to clarify: it's not anything overtly political—nothing about Trump, Palestine, sexuality, immigration, or anything like that. I know it’s vague, but I can’t say more without it being too identifiable.)

I tried to disengage and not take the bait, but they kept at it. Eventually, I lost my cool. I yelled. I got aggressive. Definitely not my proudest moment, but also, I felt seriously provoked. This wasn’t a neutral debate; it felt like they came in looking to stir something up.
Now, they’re going around telling people I "attacked" them, and I’ve gotten a couple of texts from mutuals today asking what happened and why I "blew up" at X. FWIW, I did apologize for my tone in the moment, though now I sort of wish I hadn’t!

So I guess I’m wondering, am I the one in the wrong here? I know I didn’t handle it well at the end, but I also feel like there's a line, and they crossed it. You don’t go to someone’s house, bring up something deeply personal to them, and keep poking until they snap, right?