Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not anticipate such confusion. If you stayed home sick from a planned outing with another family, would your spouse pick up food for you?

Bsically- do you bring your spouse food when they are ill?

.no there's food in the house.

If they are so sick they are bed ridden I'll bring them food if it's wanted but usually if someone is that sick they want to be left to sleep.

And if you're crowd sourcing your spouse's actions you aren't that sick. If you're well enough to be petty and get on the Internet you're well enough to sort out your own food and go to a party.

If one spouse is sick, regardless of cancelled outing, other does food. That could be cooking or getting takeout FOR EVERYONE.
NOT picking up food for self only. Or going to the planned meal with other family and leaving sick person to fend for self. But sick person should clarify what they need not expect spouse to mindread. No point getting pad Thai for someone with projectile vomiting.

So if I’m understanding, the two families—A and B— went out to eat, but one of the spouses in family A stayed home due to illness. And you are asking if the non-sick spouse in family A should have brought takeout home for the sick spouse.

It would really depend on what the illness was, what food there was at home, what tradition there was in the past about this, and where everybody went out to eat. It might be nice if the spouse who went out asked the sick spouse if they wanted anything, and it would be good communication if the sick spouse specifically asked the healthy spouse to bring something back.

OP here. I did not anticipate such confusion. If you stayed home sick from a planned outing with another family, would your spouse pick up food for you?

Bsically- do you bring your spouse food when they are ill?

Please clarify your question.

Sick spouse should not be going to get takeout. Should go straight home and stay there.

Anonymous wrote:Probably not, we don't eat takeout regularly and I wouldn't assume someone incredibly sick could digest much. I think you have to ask.

Takeout doesn’t have to be unhealthy food. I know people who eat far more unhealthy cooked from scratch dishes than some restaurant meals.

Spouse who is not sick should handle meals.

For the kids or sick partner?

It would depend on what the sick spouse had. We would likely ask if the person wanted anything while we were out but wouldn’t just randomly grab take out.

The non-sick spouse would handle dinner.

If you're sick the last thing your body needs is heavily buttered or salted food. Better to eat simple foods like toast, Cheerios, broth.

Probably not, we don't eat takeout regularly and I wouldn't assume someone incredibly sick could digest much. I think you have to ask.

I am confused as to who is "you".

Are you asking whether it's reasonable to expect your suddenly incredibly sick spouse to pick up take out, even though you are presumably healthy and now free for the evening and thus could cook, or order doordash, or pick up the food yourself?

Or are the "you" and the sick person two different people?

If you and your spouse and kids had dinner plans with another family and you bailed at the last minute because you were incredibly sick, would you bring take home for them?