I feel deeply insecure and wary about playing all the games. Online dating makes me want to barf. If a reasonably attractive man asked me out at a bar or whatever I would probably say yes. I think all the gross misogynistic stuff I read here about older women got to my head.

Anonymous wrote:Almost as soon as the ink was dry! I have a good male single friend and I boldly propositioned him. At first he didn’t think I was serious but I was. I hadn’t had sex in over three years. We only did it once and we are still good friends.

Glad it didn’t mess things up for your friendship, but that’s a lot of risk with a friend. If he’s that good of a friend why not ask him to connect you with someone he knows that you don’t in case it’s weird after?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm yet to have sex. I'm 46 male and she cheated. I dont sleep around and now have a bit of trust issues. It's been a year since my divorce..Therapy has been helpful looks my libido is coming back. When I am ready to have sex again I'll have plenty of it. I'm in excellent shape physically and I am confident in my ability.

I wish I were one of those people that could just someone today and smash tomorrow. I have never been like that sadly. And I have had plenty of opportunities. There couple of women I know though friends that have directly asked me to sleep with them. When women are older they are more bold I guess lol.

What? You didn't smash? You are a unicorn.

Yes. What’s your reasoning? Religion? Are they not attractive in some way? Do they understand your situation? It’s different at an older age and most men and women can separate sex from all the implications that get attached when younger. If you can’t, therapy is probably the right place but you might also want to give one of those a chance. No one’s taking advantage of anyone if you are both consenting adults enjoying time with each other. You have to start back somewhere if you want to avoid being a “second time 40yr old virgin”.

Anonymous wrote:Almost as soon as the ink was dry! I have a good male single friend and I boldly propositioned him. At first he didn’t think I was serious but I was. I hadn’t had sex in over three years. We only did it once and we are still good friends.

Were you in a sexless marriages?

Almost as soon as the ink was dry! I have a good male single friend and I boldly propositioned him. At first he didn’t think I was serious but I was. I hadn’t had sex in over three years. We only did it once and we are still good friends.

In a year after moving out from marital house and finalizing my divorce. I was traveling and renovating my house first year post divorce and didn't want to date

Anonymous wrote:I'm yet to have sex. I'm 46 male and she cheated. I dont sleep around and now have a bit of trust issues. It's been a year since my divorce..Therapy has been helpful looks my libido is coming back. When I am ready to have sex again I'll have plenty of it. I'm in excellent shape physically and I am confident in my ability.

I wish I were one of those people that could just someone today and smash tomorrow. I have never been like that sadly. And I have had plenty of opportunities. There couple of women I know though friends that have directly asked me to sleep with them. When women are older they are more bold I guess lol.

What? You didn't smash? You are a unicorn.

About 4 years for a weekend fling. Then not for another 6 years when I started dating someone seriously.

I'm yet to have sex. I'm 46 male and she cheated. I dont sleep around and now have a bit of trust issues. It's been a year since my divorce..Therapy has been helpful looks my libido is coming back. When I am ready to have sex again I'll have plenty of it. I'm in excellent shape physically and I am confident in my ability.

I wish I were one of those people that could just someone today and smash tomorrow. I have never been like that sadly. And I have had plenty of opportunities. There couple of women I know though friends that have directly asked me to sleep with them. When women are older they are more bold I guess lol.

My impression is that a high percentage of women, probably a majority, and an even higher percentage of men have had sex with someone new within 4 or 5 months of separation. Some may wait longer, sure, but there's a lot of enjoyment of newfound freedom. So many people feel unattractive and frustrated at their end of their marriages and are eager to try something new. Lot's of people try a new type or types.

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Anonymous wrote:I slept with someone 4 months after he moved out. It was mind blowing and we are still happily together a year later

How old are you / him?

36 & 40

Anonymous wrote:I slept with someone 4 months after he moved out. It was mind blowing and we are still happily together a year later

How old are you / him?

I slept with someone 4 months after he moved out. It was mind blowing and we are still happily together a year later

My divorce took two years and for the last six months a very nice guy was pursuing me but I said I wasn’t going to date until the divorce was final. He was very sweet and quite relentless which had a certain amount of charm. When the divorce was final I called him, we went on a date and we had sex that first night. I was pretty in need of affection by that point and I guess he deserved something for his effort. We dated briefly but it ended.

Was it in a new relationship or just fun?