Anonymous
09/22/2025 09:27
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.
Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.
Finding a side partner is a good way to spread your unaddressed issues to someone else, and pick up some of their unaddressed issues/illnesses in the process. Stupid.
Still sounds better than whatever issues you have.
Integrity, you mean?
Anonymous
09/22/2025 06:39
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Define dead bedroom.
Some people here say once a week is dead bedroom.
NP.
The consensus among therapists is fewer than 12 instances of coitus over a continuous 12-month period = a sexless marriage.
Anonymous
09/22/2025 06:17
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If couples therapy and divorce are excluded. What do people do? Do they justify cheating or not yet?
There's no such thing as "justified cheating". Decent people never cheat. They either discuss open marriage with their spouse and come to a mutual agreement on terms, or they divorce.
Similarly, there is no amount of time without sex that justifies cheating to a person who doesn't cheat, and a cheater will use any length of time, or even none at all.
So your ethical options are: tough it out, open the marriage/consensual non-monogamy, or divorce (which you say is excluded). You could also be a low-integrity POS person and cheat, in which case, there's no circumstance or set of circumstances that justify that behavior. Just go cheat, if that's who you are.
Trapping a spouse in a dead bedroom marriage is more immoral than cheating.
Anonymous
09/22/2025 02:55
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
What is the reason for the DB?
Anonymous
09/22/2025 02:40
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Open relationship. It isn’t cheating if it’s known, boundaries are set and adhered to then neither divorce or counseling are needed because there is consent
Anonymous
09/22/2025 00:09
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
You need to figure out the cause of dead bedroom before you can move on to determining the best options.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 22:35
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Why isn't divorce an option? I'm sure you can snap your fingers and find any guy you want. And I'm sure you have your money and your career will take off once the "man child" is no longer in the picture.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 21:10
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.
Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.
Finding a side partner is a good way to spread your unaddressed issues to someone else, and pick up some of their unaddressed issues/illnesses in the process. Stupid.
Still sounds better than whatever issues you have.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 21:05
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.
Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.
Finding a side partner is a good way to spread your unaddressed issues to someone else, and pick up some of their unaddressed issues/illnesses in the process. Stupid.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 21:04
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Anonymous wrote:If couples therapy and divorce are excluded. What do people do? Do they justify cheating or not yet?
There's no such thing as "justified cheating". Decent people never cheat. They either discuss open marriage with their spouse and come to a mutual agreement on terms, or they divorce.
Similarly, there is no amount of time without sex that justifies cheating to a person who doesn't cheat, and a cheater will use any length of time, or even none at all.
So your ethical options are: tough it out, open the marriage/consensual non-monogamy, or divorce (which you say is excluded). You could also be a low-integrity POS person and cheat, in which case, there's no circumstance or set of circumstances that justify that behavior. Just go cheat, if that's who you are.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 20:51
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Anonymous wrote:Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.
Finding a side partner is one way to work through them.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 20:49
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Why is couples therapy excluded? Working through your issues is the only way to fix dead bedroom, whatever the real issue behind the dead bedroom is: health, resentment, incompatibility, exhaustion.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 20:49
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
Define dead bedroom.
Some people here say once a week is dead bedroom.
Some people here say once a week is dead bedroom.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 20:44
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
If divorce isn't an option, then you can do whatever you want.
I assumed you're in more of a parenting marriage where you both know you don't have intimate feelings for one another. There's no such thing as cheating in such a situation.
I assumed you're in more of a parenting marriage where you both know you don't have intimate feelings for one another. There's no such thing as cheating in such a situation.
Anonymous
09/21/2025 20:36
Subject: Options for dead bedroom
If couples therapy and divorce are excluded. What do people do? Do they justify cheating or not yet?