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Anonymous wrote:My upper school son has a teacher who is just a complete jerk. Constantly sarcastic, rude, openly calls some questions dumb questions, etc. The thing that I can’t figure out is that he is very highly regarded at the school my admin and many other students/parents but it is not a good fit whatsoever for my son. Do I bother going to the school to complain or just tell my kid to keep his head down and tough it out?

"dumb questions"

You pay a private school to say that to your kid?

Hell no.

Of course, you complain. There is no way I'd leave my kid in a class with a teacher like that.

Have you have ever been in a corporate meeting? There are tons of dumb questions.

Anonymous wrote:My upper school son has a teacher who is just a complete jerk. Constantly sarcastic, rude, openly calls some questions dumb questions, etc. The thing that I can’t figure out is that he is very highly regarded at the school my admin and many other students/parents but it is not a good fit whatsoever for my son. Do I bother going to the school to complain or just tell my kid to keep his head down and tough it out?

"dumb questions"

You pay a private school to say that to your kid?

Hell no.

Of course, you complain. There is no way I'd leave my kid in a class with a teacher like that.

Is he funny?

My daughter loved her 7th grade math teacher, who was rude, sarcastic, and threw candy at the kids. In her eyes he was hilarious. She loves sarcasm and witty comebacks.

But some parents were not happy with this guy at all.

If the teacher mocks disabilities and discriminates against protected classes, that's your opening to lodge a formal complaint.

This is a teaching moment, op, but so bc he’s in high school. Some people are here and it’s best to get used to that fact now. Some professors, bosses, neighbors may be jerks in the future-it’s just part of life.

You can learn a lot about how to handle yourself (and how you want to carry yourself when you have some authority) from a bad teacher.

Change your oz ts.

Oh we had that problem at a private. My oldest son basically said that this teacher was abusive. I was so happy when he left. Now that my boys are done with the school, the abusive teacher is back! I just can't imagine what the school was thinking by hiring this guy back again.

We have a senior in private school and have had some bad teachers. This is not a reason to ask for a reassignment and you know this - that is why you are here. Some people are jerks. As long as your kid is learning and he isn’t being bullied by the teacher, you need to deal with it.

Which school ?

Your son is presumably in high school, so why not encourage him to go speak to his advisor or dean to ask if it's possible to transfer to a class taught by a different teacher. If he's stuck in that class, then he's just going to have to learn to deal with it. It's a good life lesson- sometimes you have to just figure out how to deal with people who you don't jive with and find difficult. Mommy going to complain isn't going to help (unless it was a situation where the teacher was being abusive, which from your post does not sound like the case- it sounds like his style/personality work for some but not your son).

Something similar happened to my DS. Some people loved a particular teacher who joked a lot, and I think had more of a locker room style. My nerdy son hated it. He felt teased. We had lots of discussions about how there are lots of senses of humor, and lots of types of people in the world. You’ll have lots of types of bosses and you just have to adjust to them sometimes. By middle school, I think it’s on the student to deal with it, even if the teacher annoys them or has a style they don’t like. My DS was also on the immature side and would have loved to have nurturing, organized teachers forever but had to learn teachers come in many shapes and sizes.

My upper school son has a teacher who is just a complete jerk. Constantly sarcastic, rude, openly calls some questions dumb questions, etc. The thing that I can’t figure out is that he is very highly regarded at the school my admin and many other students/parents but it is not a good fit whatsoever for my son. Do I bother going to the school to complain or just tell my kid to keep his head down and tough it out?